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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][b]Either the DNA connection to a child is deeply meaningful or it isn’t. If it’s this meaningful to OP’s sister, she should understand why it’s meaningful to OP as well.[/b] If the idea of not having a genetic connection to the child you’re raising is painful, you should be able to understand that the idea of having someone else raise your biological offspring is also potentially painful.[/quote]

NP. This is almost word for word what I wanted to write. And fwiw the genetic connection is very important to me and I couldn’t have someone else raising my child. I’d be very uncomfortable with this request and [b]I wouldn’t look at the sister the same way again.[/b][/quote]

You couldn’t look at your sister the same way for merely asking???[/quote]

The PPs explained pretty well why it's not just a mere ask. I don't get how people make it sound like this is the same as asking to borrow the car or to babysit for a weekend (which most on DCUM would complain about and say the sister should have had backup arrangements, lol).[/quote]

I’m the PP who declined to be my sister’s surrogate. I’d feel really, really sad if my sister was so scared of my reaction or the potential of making me feel temporarily uncomfortable that she couldn’t make a gentle request to me about something really important to her.

My sister also asked me to be her children’s legal guardian in the event of her death (to which I freely agreed). That request also isn’t like asking someone to babysit. And everyone knows parents need a legal guardian in the event of death, but rarely do people volunteer. Should we also stigmatize or shame people for asking family members to agree to be legal guardians in the event of a tragedy?[/quote]

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