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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][b]Either the DNA connection to a child is deeply meaningful or it isn’t. If it’s this meaningful to OP’s sister, she should understand why it’s meaningful to OP as well.[/b] If the idea of not having a genetic connection to the child you’re raising is painful, you should be able to understand that the idea of having someone else raise your biological offspring is also potentially painful.[/quote]

NP. This is almost word for word what I wanted to write. And fwiw the genetic connection is very important to me and I couldn’t have someone else raising my child. I’d be very uncomfortable with this request and [b]I wouldn’t look at the sister the same way again.[/b][/quote]

You couldn’t look at your sister the same way for merely asking???[/quote]

The PPs explained pretty well why it's not just a mere ask. I don't get how people make it sound like this is the same as asking to borrow the car or to babysit for a weekend (which most on DCUM would complain about and say the sister should have had backup arrangements, lol).[/quote]

That’s an insane reaction that says a lot about you.

It’s completely fine not to want to donate your donate eggs and to feel guilty about the ask. But the lack of empathy in understanding the ask and apparently the extraordinary discomfort with saying “no” to someone is frankly astounding.

No one is likening this to babysitting. But the suggestion that asking alone is coercive, inappropriate, or akin to suggesting an incestuous relationship is wrong.[/quote]

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