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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]i supported my parents through the last 25 years of their life; that was mostly 30k a year until the last several years [b]which turned into more like $200k a year with memory care. [/b]

there is currently a generational trust in my spouses family but they are likely to live at least another 25 years. i view the actual inheritance to be the fact that we won't have to monetarily support them in old age. the primary lifestyle change we made is that we did decide to have children; i probably would not have done IVF if there had been any danger of needing to support the previous generation for significant years.

they have set up nice 529s for our children, and they buy the plane tickets for us to visit; those are the primary extent of our planning reliance on their money. (though we still contribute what our state allows for deductions to another 529). spouses tax-advantaged retirement funds are a little light for their age, which likely reflects some unconscious reliance on inheritance but their overall portfolio is fine.  i'm contributing the max i can to mine including catch-up.

in short, my perspective is that there is no windfall coming, and i live my life accordingly. our newest car is almost 20 years old and that's completely fine. we have a decent UMC life, and i'm delighted to hopefully have decades where they can enjoy their grandchildren.[/quote]

$200k a year on memory care is criminal and unnecessary. If this were the going rate, then think of how many people would work as memory care providers 24-7. No college education necessary but you live with someone and they pay you $200k a year. The market for this is incredibly small. Many people paying amounts like this are big spenders their entire life, or taken for a wild ride.

The average length of LTC is 2-4 years. During this time, your money should be growing and if you’re a widow then you should not have any other expenses since you’re not living at home.

I do feel bad for the elderly who spend large portions of their net worth on care, when it truly isn’t necessary. The large corporations providing care aren’t necessarily providing better care as their employees are often paid very little or minimum wage.

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um, $8200 a month a bed for a shared room in memory care is INCREDIBLY CHEAP in this area. the medicaid nightmare their hospital originally transferred them into was more like $13,000 a month per bed.

for $200,000 a year my violent, non-compliant, non-verbal parents were taken care of, fed, bathed, dressed, medicated, and entertained to the best of the staff's ability 24 hours a day. in-home care was not possible; the house was not accessible, and had to be sold to fund their care. and yes, the staff are not paid very much and it's generally immigrants that are willing to do that backbreaking and heartbreaking labor.

fortunately yes, it was only for about 4 years. [/quote]

There are actually plenty of facilities in this area charging $5-6k per month. Consider that there are virtually no other expenses during this time. You have to avoid large corporate owned facilities and go private.

From a common sense perspective, “memory care” would be the hottest job on the planet if you could just take care of someone else for 200k per year without a college degree.

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it's taking care of TWO someones for $200k per year. your example of $6k per month would be $150k per year, and the reality is that many places do not have two beds/a double room available when a couple needs to be placed together on a tight deadline. none of the smaller homes I called had openings for two.

Finally, I got lucky and was able to place them in a facility that was walking distance from my home. worth a 30% premium, honestly, even though at $8k/mo they were actually the CHEAPEST memory care with two open beds i talked to.[/quote]

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