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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I hope everyone thinks of their kid as a great kid.
I was a mopey Daria-like teen who got straight As and a full ride and my mother always said then and now that I "made her life hell." I never even did anything bad, just wasn't outgoing and popular.
My own kid is a bundle of anxiety, non-athletic, with trouble making friends and I have a million reasons he is a great kid.[/quote]

Hey friend! I was also a mopey Daria-like teen with great grades who also excelled at speech and debate and theater, and never got in trouble. Both of my parents acted like raising me was some kind of punishment. I think the reality is that they had kids really young and never actually wanted to be parents, and took that out on their kids.

Anyway, my own kid is extremely quirky, has major anxiety, needs an alarming amount of orthodontia, and totally exhausts me sometimes. She's also my favorite person in the world and I think she's great and view her challenges as just that -- challenges like any person might have at some point in their life.

A lot of people seem obsessed with having *perfect* kids and I think even if you luck into getting a kid with absolutely no issues whatsoever, that fixation is going to bite you in the end. Nobody is perfect. And kids, like all people, need safe places where they can fail at things, and to know that even if they do fail, they will be loved and still have a family and a home. Obsessing over your kid's athletic prowess, academic success, good lucks, and social dominance, even if it's all true, seems unhealthy to me.[/quote]

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