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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]DH would never have dated or married me if he knew about a brief but exploratory period of my life.  I've never considered sharing it with him; it's irrelevant to our marriage and life. He also never asked. I'm now a conservative professional and boring mom with no edge.  Maybe I'm more open-minded and less judgmental because I deviated for a moment.  I appreciate the stability we have. I don't even flirt with other men. 
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It's not okay to be a liar, even a liar by omission. He would have thought it was relevant if you'd told him before he proposed.[/quote]

It’s the lying that is most hurtful to a relationship. My good friend recently found out that her husband had been more sexually active before their marriage then he had let on. He had let her believe that they were similarly experienced and that they were learning about that part of their relationship together (they were both 21 when they met). She is deeply upset that he lied by omission by not telling her about this and says that her ability to trust him has been shaken.

She talks about it every time we get together. I just let her talk as much as she wants- I don’t know what else to do to help her and I hate to see her feeling so sad. I can see that this has really affected her. Her mood and energy level are different from before she knew that her husband hadn’t been completely honest with her. 
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Led her to believe that how? Unless he directly lied to her, then it sounds more like she believed what she wanted to believe.  Sounds more like she should take responsibility for being too weak back then to ask the questions she wanted answered. Assume makes an ass out of u and me. [/quote]

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