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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here. I agree with that my BIL absolutely bears responsibility here. He’s not a helpless bystander, and it’s beyond frustrating that he just goes along with whatever she says without standing up for what’s right, especially when it comes to something as important as their kids’ health. Honestly, he’s generally an idiot about a lot of things, so this isn’t totally out of character for him.

That said, I don’t think I’m blaming only her or letting him off the hook. I mentioned what he said to us and how he basically doesn’t care enough to push back, which is a huge part of the problem. But practically speaking, she’s the one driving this decision. She researches (or thinks she does), posts about it constantly, and is extremely vocal about it. My BIL is passive, but she’s the active force.

I’m trying to figure out if there’s any way to get through to her specifically, since she’s the one so dug in on the anti-vaccine stuff. I’m not excusing him at all. He’s being weak and irresponsible, but if there’s a chance to change things, it seems like it will have to come through her.

I hear you, though, and I appreciate the reminder that he’s not off the hook just because he’s passive. I’ll try to keep that in mind going forward.

Anyway, thanks for everyone’s responses. To the poster who reminded me that she will have to get vaccinated to go to school, you made me feel a lot better. We just found out about this last night and my first response was definitely anger. I’m not thinking logically. I just feel so bad for the baby, the rest of the kids, and my MIL and FIL.[/quote]

I’m the OP of the other thread, and I will make this point here, too:

YOUR BIL IS WORSE. SIL has unfortunately fallen prey to an all-media-fronts machine and a movement designed to make her fearful and mistrustful of vaccines and of science. It’s not like she woke up one day and decided Vaccines are Bad. She, like many other parents, have fallen for a weaponized, monetized movement designed to scare parents that has reached the very top levels of government. Forces bigger than her worked on her. Is that ultimately her fault? Yes. But also, at least she is coming from a place of misguidedly-but-genuinely thinking she is doing what is best for her child.

[b]BIL, meanwhile, likely knows better[/b] but is apparently too lazy, weak or uncaring to fight for the health and the life of his child. THAT is disgusting. To probably know better and just be like, “happy wife, happy life; oh well” is even more awful than SIL.[/quote]

You don't know that bil knows better. More than likely he agrees with sil and you and op are just perpetuating the same old sexist bull shite. [/quote]

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