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[quote=Anonymous]East Asian immigration here. I would say the mentioned practices of living with and serving demanding parents/in-laws or resenting to living with them are extreme. Most families are somewhere in between. It’s becoming less and less common to live together as living conditions are getting better, women have more say in the family, and more awareness about the tensions caused by different generations living together. Nowadays they live in different apts and sometimes different cities, but they definitely maintain a closer tie than families here in the states. We still value supporting elders and generally think taking care of them is family’s responsibility rather than the society’s. In the case of elder care of abusive parents, some would cut ties with them, but I believe many would still provide some level of financial support but no emotional support. It’s just the culture, social pressure and conscience. Caring for elders is an important part of upbringing and education from school, too. I feel people who made comments about Asian practices either have not lived there before or lived there very long time ago. It’s different now.

When I initially read op’s question, I was thinking she should offer small amount of financial support. But after seeing all the comments, I realized the culture is quite different. No judgement, just observations. [/quote]

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