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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]If your aren't a troll, your kids just go to the best in state college they can go to. Like most other people. [/quote]

There are lots of kids like yours, OP, including mine. My son had a perfect 1600 SAT score and a 4.8 weighted GPA coming out of the Blair magnet. He did very well at University of Maryland and did not apply to any top 20 schools because we could not afford them. And, we had saved quite a lot.

It's not unusual and it will be fine. What matters is how your kids do, not that they go to a brand name school.[/quote]

+2 Tell the kids you can afford VA state school budget. They can apply elsewhere but if it doesn't fit the budget it's off the list. They should start to look for things they can like about UVA/W&M/VT.

Read The Price You Pay for College by Ron Lieber
https://www.amazon.com/Price-You-Pay-College-Financial/dp/006286730X
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OP - kid is very set on getting out of VA as fast as she can, really wants New England schools[/quote]

I really wanted to apply Ivy and had the record for it.  But that was in the days before any Ivies met full need, and I'm the oldest child.  My parents sat me down and explained to me that no matter how good a student I was, I did not have the right to demand financial support from them that would compromise my younger siblings' education.  I cried.  I yelled.  I felt Justifiably Wronged as only a teenager can. I did not get very excited about the application process.  But I went to a school that gave me a full scholarship and launched me on a pathway to huge academic success.  I've never been sorry.  And my parents were absolutely right. [/quote]

Decades ago a high school classmate, eldest son, went to Harvard and this completely drained parental finances. Younger siblings had to attend lesser/cheaper schools. I never knew whether the younger siblings felt bitter about it but they certainly had a right to.[/quote]

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