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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I think it’s a different kind of love.

I rarely see men who truly try to improve as a parent and not make the mistakes their parents did. It’s more that they try their best, and if their kid gets messed up, they don’t worry about it.

Sort of like romantic relationships. Women are generally the ones who read relationship books and take responsibility for monitoring how the relationship is going. Men rarely do that.

Also far less guilt and shame. [/quote]

You are dumb and narrow minded 
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I think it's a generalization, but it's true for many men.

-dp[/quote]

And many women. So what’s your point? [/quote]
My point is that more men do this than women.  Why do you think the term "deadbeat dad" exists, and not "deadbeat mom" ?  Because dads leaving their kids is a lot more common than moms doing so.

Women are generally more connected to their children than men.[/quote]

Generalize much?[/quote]

But the PP is right. Men, when they divorce, often walk away from their kids. They threaten their exes with non-payment of support, they TELL THEIR KIDS they won't support them if their mom does XYZ. They put conditions on their love for their children.

Not all men. And occasionally women walk away, but those women are OUTLIERS. They are often mentally ill, or maybe have a drug or alcohol problem. But everybody -EVERYBODY- can probably think of at least ONE man who has been a sup-par father after leaving the mom. One of my cousins -- has littered the state with little kids he doesn't see or support. My sibling's ex put conditions on seeing his child based on what my sister did. Two neighbors divorced - I haven't seen the dads again. The bad behaviour is everywhere. [/quote]

Oh man I guess I should tap myself on the back because I am now more involved with my kids that I have been before my divorce. [b]For this reason I am glad I am divorced because when I was married I didn't want to be around my kids as much as I do now. [/b][/quote]
? why? Did your love for you kids increase after your divorce? Did you see them as a reflection of your feelings for your ex?  How sad for them.[/quote]

I don't like my ex wife. Even when we were married whenever she wasn't around I wouldn't enjoy being around our kids. Pre and post divorce when she is absent I love being a dad. She was a difficult person I didn't like that her only parental style was yelling. And now my son no longer acts up in school, he is back to being the great student he as always been and has resumed fencing as well. He seems to be enjoying the separation away from her as well. It's sad sure. But this is a women's forum so y'all can defend her I get it.[/quote]

It’s absolutely her fault you were like that. Absolutely.

So awesome that not having you and the mom in the same household has made the kid more peaceful and successful.

Who’d have thunk that from reading your many posts!?!  Golly gee. [/quote]

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