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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You are creating a craving. I was that kid. In a few short years, you are going to have ZERO control over what he buys with his own money & eats. Guess what I did at 16? Full on binges. I would say disordered eating for a good 10 years.

Here’s what I would recommend - no “consequences”. No punishment, no extra chores or losing phone time or whatever punitive actions you could come up. Talk about how it’s not great for his health. Then move on. Maybe even buy a bag of Oreos & say, I know you can do better - have a few when you feel like it.

I am parenting so differently now that I have kids, & I can tell you that my teens don’t do that. We have a bag of Oreos in the cabinet that have been there for probably 6 months. Someone has 3 or 4, & then forgets about it.[/quote]

This is my story exactly. My mom was extremely rigid about food, coupled with being very critical of her own body, and that of me and my sisters. There was no "junk food" in the house, dessert was homemade yogurt with a tablespoon of fruit, etc.

I developed a full-on binging disorder in high school, leading to bulimia and anorexia in university. I almost died.

With my own kids, I did a ton of research and made sure that no foods were "off limits" and that no one would ever be allowed to talk about my kids' bodies in front of them. Dessert and junk foods exist at my house, often left over from Halloween or from a birthday party, or from buying GS cookies from the nice little girl at the door. But my kids, who are all the same age as OPs or older, just don't feel the need to binge. They might have one GS cookie after dinner, but more often than not I throw the package away because it gets stale before they finish it.

OP - you are doing this wrong, not just for your child's mental health but for their long-term relationship with food. Do better. [/quote]

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