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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]It never ceases to amaze me when there is a thread posted like this and so many basically respond with something along the lines of “this is life-learn to live with it”. You guys realize we only have one life right? Who the heck wants to be miserable?

For the record, I am staying in my non filling marriage until my youngest goes to college in a few years. My kids are happy and I don’t want to uproot their lives when I have plenty of friends and interests and a great job to distract me. But I cannot tell you how excited I am to have my freedom soon. But I’m not willing to deal with custody stuff and the kids having to be back and forth. I am willing to wait a few years for it to be a simpler transition for everyone. That being said-I fantasize about how my life will change all the time.

Nobody deserves to be miserable, OP. You will be happier and HE will be happier because he can just be happy go he is with someone forcing him to do stuff he doesn’t want to do. All the posters suggesting you have a conversation with him where you basically say “we do this or I’m leaving” don’t seem to understand what it feels like when someone does something because they are being forced rather than because they want to. Nobody wants that.

OP-you deserve happiness. We all do. And I’m so sick of the commentary about how spouses can’t make you unhappy. They most certainly can.[/quote]

Your first and second paragraph contradict each other. Lol

This is life because you are making these sacrifices for your kids. If they end up unhappy in divorce, OP would still be unhappy, so staying is still the best decision for her happiness.

If OP was childless, different story.[/quote]

It is not a contradiction-I am leaving. That is certain. I’m just waiting 3 more years to make it less of a burden on my children. Now if it was further away than that? That would be different.

And commenting on the last thing you said-so she should just stay because of the “possibility” that she may be unhappy in divorce? I mean, she is definitely unhappy in the marriage so I’m not sure what the argument is. [/quote]

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