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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]This just so does not resonate for me.  All the boomer grandparents I know would loose to spend more time with their grandkids.  My neighbor has offered. to watch her granddaughter as many days as possible but the mom thinks it’s better for the child to have consistency in childcare (which is fine).  I know lots of millennials who want to limit the grandparents time or really control how/when etc.  My sister who is a boomer flies to her kids houses all the time to help out if one parent is traveling or they want to take a kid free vacation.
I do wonder if people are making it really hard for their parents to care for the kids by putting a ton of restrictions on it.  My grandmother watched me almost daily.  Did she do it the way my mom would have wanted?  Probably not.  I are a LOT of pudding and she let me watch some questionable TV.  But it was fine.  You have to be a little flexible and not treat your parents like employees.  I definitely see some millennials who would rather pay someone they can micromanage than let their parents have some leeway.  My approach is to set out some basic safety standards (careers, sleeping on back, etc.). But otherwise let it go. [/quote]

This!! Barely boomer here, 59. We work f-t still but do watch and spend time with our grandchildren often. We live close, enjoy them and want to create memories. Daughter is SAHM w/ a PHD, which is FINE but stop complaining about money. When we have the kids, there are so many rules. We can't have the news on, any programs we watch together have to be previously approved, they don't like them around some family members for stupid reasons, have to approve our friends who come by (it seems by comments made by the kids). The older ones read ingredients on everything we feed them. I do cook very healthy and mostly have adjusted but it IS A LOT and we get tattled on. We are made to feel like the children sometimes and it's ridiculous but it's still, "We need a break" and they get help. Let us be the grandparents. Let us keep them alive like we did you. UGH!![/quote]

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