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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I don't have a problem with boys five and under in the ladies changing/bathroom at the pool, but once they are over five, they're too old to be in the changing room with my daughter.

We have a rule at the pool and if the PP brought her 8 year old into the showers, I'd complain to the attendants to enforce that rule. Eight is way too old to be in the room where my five year old changes.[/quote]

I'm the person that posted a few posts above yours about taking my 8 year old son into the women's locker room with my daughters and myself.

I understand that some people are not thrilled with an 8 year old boy being in the women's locker room. I'm certainly NOT trying to offend anyone!

But to be honest, I would much rather someone be momentarily embarrassed about a little boy seeing them nude than for my son to be molested in the men's locker room.

I have told my son not to stare at nude people while he's in there with us, and to be completely honest, he doesn't. While he is showering off he just talks to his sisters and myself. He's probably at least 3 to 4 years off from puberty. And I plan on having him use the men's locker room in a couple of years.[/quote]

An 8 year old boy is MUCH too old to be in a women's locker room where all the patrons are required to take a public nude soap shower, a 10 year old even more so.  I would complain, loudly, to management, and probably say something angry to your face if it were a 10 year old.  If you don't like/agree with the rules, fine--don't patronize that facility.   But if you do, you need to abide by the rules.[/quote]

As I mentioned, no-one has ever complained about my son being in the women's locker room, and as far as I can tell, no-one seems bothered by it. I have never received any comments or dirty looks from anyone in the locker room. The closest anyone ever seems to come to being "bothered" about my son being in there, is when an occasion a woman or girl makes an effort to face the opposite direction while they're showering.

The pool doesn't even have an age limit posted anywhere out in the open for children using opposite gender locker rooms. so, I don't know if it's against the rules for my 8 year old son to be in the women's locker room or not?[/quote]

Your level of paranoia and fear is so unhealthy for your children. Kids who live under this heavy cloak of everyone is out to get you and who are not allowed to develop needed skills for independence are probably even more likely to be victimized later on as they are so vulnerable and unprepared for the world. Also this belief that you are instilling nobody is trustworthy and that all men are predators just waiting to molest him should he eve be alone with a man can seriously impact his ability to form healthy relationships.

It is one thing to be prudently cautious. It is another to allow your fears and paranoia to interrupt your child's healthy growth and development. [/quote]

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