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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I'm having a horrible reaction here. Opus Dei. All male. Only male teachers. Predominantly male authors studied. Ugh! What happens to the sisters of these boys? Are they taught to be subservient? Do they also attend private schools, or are public schools "good enough for THEM."

Opus Dei was founded by Josemaria Escriva, who stated, "Women needn’t be scholars—it’s enough for them to be prudent." Also: "That is why I am not afraid to say that women are responsible for eighty percent of the infidelities of their husbands because they do not know how to win them each day and take loving and considerate care of them."

I grew up as the only girl in an Opus Dei family with many sons. The boys went to expensive private schools and were provided with cars. My parents covered their university education. I went to public school and was on my own for college.

My job was to help look after my brothers. I was expected to cook and clean, while my brothers did no chores. From the time I was seven years old, I was told I would "have to leave school and look after the boys" if anything happened to my mother.

Please think about your daughters before considering a school like this. [/quote]

This is so obviously a fake post. Your telling me that your parents bought all the brothers cars, privte school, and college... then told u that u get nothing? Seriously? No one is falling for this fake post[/quote]

That is precisely what happened. In a way, it's validating that you find this treatment unbelievable. It was normalized to me, and I was told I was selfish and jealous when I objected. My parents bought one brother several cars over the years. The others only got one. I once got a bicycle. There was an enormous discrepancy between my brothers and me regarding spending, behavioral expectations, and assigned chores. My brothers were expected to develop themselves and not help around the house, but I was supposed to clean and cook. This is not unusual in quiverful and "complementarian" families, so I worry about sisters and daughters caught in these situations. I would ask parents to consider any system that privileges men and boys over women and girls, as Opus Dei does. Boys who are taught that they are superior to their sisters develop some unpleasant characteristics that can get them in trouble as they get older, and girls in these situations are unlikely to remain close to their families. I suggest reading Tara Westover's book Educated. [/quote]

Honestly you sound like a bigot making up a bizarre life story in order to smear the Catholic community.  If someone came on to DCUM and said their house was robbed by a black person so therefore we need to be wary of blacks generally, Jeff would delete that thread in two seconds, as he should.  Get lost, please.  [/quote]

Equating concern about Opus Dei with racism is absurd. Anybody can reference statements by Josemaria Escriva, the founder of Opus Dei, and some of his writings and comments about women are extremely disturbing. Escriva died in 1975, and I hope that in the almost 50 years since then, Opus Dei has evolved beyond his disrespectful assertions.

Your insults and lack of empathy do not reflect well on Heights parents (I assume you are one?) and reinforce my concerns about girls exposed to prejudice. [/quote]

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