Anonymous wrote:We are seriously considering the Heights for our boys. We know a few families there, but not that many. We currently send our boys to a diocese school where there are some (not a ton) of well-to-do families that go to country clubs and fancy vacations. We definitely aren’t like that, we are a single income family and live a pretty modest lifestyle. Would we fit in there? Is it a school with tons of Uber wealthy families?

We are devout Catholics and very familiar with Opus Dei, please don’t feel the need to inform me of that.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am suspicious if Opus Dei. Perhaps the Americanized version is better than the original, but its founder, Josemaria Escriva, had some very unhealthy ideas about corporal mortification and the subjection of women.

https://www.opus-info.org/index.php/Opus_Dei_info:FAQ

Scroll down to the parts "What is the role of women in the Opus Dei ideology?" and "What kind of person was Josemaria Escriva?"

These are NOT ideas I would want my sons to pick up on or my daughters to be exposed to.

Indeed! Normal Catholics know Opus Del is for extremist weirdos.

“Normal Catholics”- I see how tolerance only leans in one direction here.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm having a horrible reaction here. Opus Dei. All male. Only male teachers. Predominantly male authors studied. Ugh! What happens to the sisters of these boys? Are they taught to be subservient? Do they also attend private schools, or are public schools "good enough for THEM."

Opus Dei was founded by Josemaria Escriva, who stated, "Women needn’t be scholars—it’s enough for them to be prudent." Also: "That is why I am not afraid to say that women are responsible for eighty percent of the infidelities of their husbands because they do not know how to win them each day and take loving and considerate care of them."

I grew up as the only girl in an Opus Dei family with many sons. The boys went to expensive private schools and were provided with cars. My parents covered their university education. I went to public school and was on my own for college.

My job was to help look after my brothers. I was expected to cook and clean, while my brothers did no chores. From the time I was seven years old, I was told I would "have to leave school and look after the boys" if anything happened to my mother.

Please think about your daughters before considering a school like this.

This is so obviously a fake post. Your telling me that your parents bought all the brothers cars, privte school, and college... then told u that u get nothing? Seriously? No one is falling for this fake post

That is precisely what happened. In a way, it's validating that you find this treatment unbelievable. It was normalized to me, and I was told I was selfish and jealous when I objected. My parents bought one brother several cars over the years. The others only got one. I once got a bicycle. There was an enormous discrepancy between my brothers and me regarding spending, behavioral expectations, and assigned chores. My brothers were expected to develop themselves and not help around the house, but I was supposed to clean and cook. This is not unusual in quiverful and "complementarian" families, so I worry about sisters and daughters caught in these situations. I would ask parents to consider any system that privileges men and boys over women and girls, as Opus Dei does. Boys who are taught that they are superior to their sisters develop some unpleasant characteristics that can get them in trouble as they get older, and girls in these situations are unlikely to remain close to their families. I suggest reading Tara Westover's book Educated.

Honestly you sound like a bigot making up a bizarre life story in order to smear the Catholic community. If someone came on to DCUM and said their house was robbed by a black person so therefore we need to be wary of blacks generally, Jeff would delete that thread in two seconds, as he should. Get lost, please.

Equating concern about Opus Dei with racism is absurd. Anybody can reference statements by Josemaria Escriva, the founder of Opus Dei, and some of his writings and comments about women are extremely disturbing. Escriva died in 1975, and I hope that in the almost 50 years since then, Opus Dei has evolved beyond his disrespectful assertions.

Your insults and lack of empathy do not reflect well on Heights parents (I assume you are one?) and reinforce my concerns about girls exposed to prejudice.

Anonymous wrote:I am suspicious if Opus Dei. Perhaps the Americanized version is better than the original, but its founder, Josemaria Escriva, had some very unhealthy ideas about corporal mortification and the subjection of women.

https://www.opus-info.org/index.php/Opus_Dei_info:FAQ

Scroll down to the parts "What is the role of women in the Opus Dei ideology?" and "What kind of person was Josemaria Escriva?"

These are NOT ideas I would want my sons to pick up on or my daughters to be exposed to.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm having a horrible reaction here. Opus Dei. All male. Only male teachers. Predominantly male authors studied. Ugh! What happens to the sisters of these boys? Are they taught to be subservient? Do they also attend private schools, or are public schools "good enough for THEM."

Opus Dei was founded by Josemaria Escriva, who stated, "Women needn’t be scholars—it’s enough for them to be prudent." Also: "That is why I am not afraid to say that women are responsible for eighty percent of the infidelities of their husbands because they do not know how to win them each day and take loving and considerate care of them."

I grew up as the only girl in an Opus Dei family with many sons. The boys went to expensive private schools and were provided with cars. My parents covered their university education. I went to public school and was on my own for college.

My job was to help look after my brothers. I was expected to cook and clean, while my brothers did no chores. From the time I was seven years old, I was told I would "have to leave school and look after the boys" if anything happened to my mother.

Please think about your daughters before considering a school like this.

Bahahahaha! Nice try! Many Opus Dei families send their girls to Oakcrest at a whopping 30k per year and push academics so they can get into the equivalent of their “Catholic ivys”. From there, they chose what they want- a career, family or both. Isn’t that what feminism is about? Choice?

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm having a horrible reaction here. Opus Dei. All male. Only male teachers. Predominantly male authors studied. Ugh! What happens to the sisters of these boys? Are they taught to be subservient? Do they also attend private schools, or are public schools "good enough for THEM."

Opus Dei was founded by Josemaria Escriva, who stated, "Women needn’t be scholars—it’s enough for them to be prudent." Also: "That is why I am not afraid to say that women are responsible for eighty percent of the infidelities of their husbands because they do not know how to win them each day and take loving and considerate care of them."

I grew up as the only girl in an Opus Dei family with many sons. The boys went to expensive private schools and were provided with cars. My parents covered their university education. I went to public school and was on my own for college.

My job was to help look after my brothers. I was expected to cook and clean, while my brothers did no chores. From the time I was seven years old, I was told I would "have to leave school and look after the boys" if anything happened to my mother.

Please think about your daughters before considering a school like this.

This is so obviously a fake post. Your telling me that your parents bought all the brothers cars, privte school, and college... then told u that u get nothing? Seriously? No one is falling for this fake post

That is precisely what happened. In a way, it's validating that you find this treatment unbelievable. It was normalized to me, and I was told I was selfish and jealous when I objected. My parents bought one brother several cars over the years. The others only got one. I once got a bicycle. There was an enormous discrepancy between my brothers and me regarding spending, behavioral expectations, and assigned chores. My brothers were expected to develop themselves and not help around the house, but I was supposed to clean and cook. This is not unusual in quiverful and "complementarian" families, so I worry about sisters and daughters caught in these situations. I would ask parents to consider any system that privileges men and boys over women and girls, as Opus Dei does. Boys who are taught that they are superior to their sisters develop some unpleasant characteristics that can get them in trouble as they get older, and girls in these situations are unlikely to remain close to their families. I suggest reading Tara Westover's book Educated.

Honestly you sound like a bigot making up a bizarre life story in order to smear the Catholic community. If someone came on to DCUM and said their house was robbed by a black person so therefore we need to be wary of blacks generally, Jeff would delete that thread in two seconds, as he should. Get lost, please.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm having a horrible reaction here. Opus Dei. All male. Only male teachers. Predominantly male authors studied. Ugh! What happens to the sisters of these boys? Are they taught to be subservient? Do they also attend private schools, or are public schools "good enough for THEM."

Opus Dei was founded by Josemaria Escriva, who stated, "Women needn’t be scholars—it’s enough for them to be prudent." Also: "That is why I am not afraid to say that women are responsible for eighty percent of the infidelities of their husbands because they do not know how to win them each day and take loving and considerate care of them."

I grew up as the only girl in an Opus Dei family with many sons. The boys went to expensive private schools and were provided with cars. My parents covered their university education. I went to public school and was on my own for college.

My job was to help look after my brothers. I was expected to cook and clean, while my brothers did no chores. From the time I was seven years old, I was told I would "have to leave school and look after the boys" if anything happened to my mother.

Please think about your daughters before considering a school like this.

Bahahahaha! Nice try! Many Opus Dei families send their girls to Oakcrest at a whopping 30k per year and push academics so they can get into the equivalent of their “Catholic ivys”. From there, they chose what they want- a career, family or both. Isn’t that what feminism is about? Choice?

One poster here mentioned her son's school (The Heights) was much better than her daughter's PUBLIC school. How is that not male privilege? Private school for the dauphin. Public school for the girls, who obviously aren't worth that investment.

I’m not seeing that post. Can you share the one you are talakknf about?

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm having a horrible reaction here. Opus Dei. All male. Only male teachers. Predominantly male authors studied. Ugh! What happens to the sisters of these boys? Are they taught to be subservient? Do they also attend private schools, or are public schools "good enough for THEM."

Opus Dei was founded by Josemaria Escriva, who stated, "Women needn’t be scholars—it’s enough for them to be prudent." Also: "That is why I am not afraid to say that women are responsible for eighty percent of the infidelities of their husbands because they do not know how to win them each day and take loving and considerate care of them."

I grew up as the only girl in an Opus Dei family with many sons. The boys went to expensive private schools and were provided with cars. My parents covered their university education. I went to public school and was on my own for college.

My job was to help look after my brothers. I was expected to cook and clean, while my brothers did no chores. From the time I was seven years old, I was told I would "have to leave school and look after the boys" if anything happened to my mother.

Please think about your daughters before considering a school like this.

This is so obviously a fake post. Your telling me that your parents bought all the brothers cars, privte school, and college... then told u that u get nothing? Seriously? No one is falling for this fake post

That is precisely what happened. In a way, it's validating that you find this treatment unbelievable. It was normalized to me, and I was told I was selfish and jealous when I objected. My parents bought one brother several cars over the years. The others only got one. I once got a bicycle. There was an enormous discrepancy between my brothers and me regarding spending, behavioral expectations, and assigned chores. My brothers were expected to develop themselves and not help around the house, but I was supposed to clean and cook. This is not unusual in quiverful and "complementarian" families, so I worry about sisters and daughters caught in these situations. I would ask parents to consider any system that privileges men and boys over women and girls, as Opus Dei does. Boys who are taught that they are superior to their sisters develop some unpleasant characteristics that can get them in trouble as they get older, and girls in these situations are unlikely to remain close to their families. I suggest reading Tara Westover's book Educated.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm having a horrible reaction here. Opus Dei. All male. Only male teachers. Predominantly male authors studied. Ugh! What happens to the sisters of these boys? Are they taught to be subservient? Do they also attend private schools, or are public schools "good enough for THEM."

Opus Dei was founded by Josemaria Escriva, who stated, "Women needn’t be scholars—it’s enough for them to be prudent." Also: "That is why I am not afraid to say that women are responsible for eighty percent of the infidelities of their husbands because they do not know how to win them each day and take loving and considerate care of them."

I grew up as the only girl in an Opus Dei family with many sons. The boys went to expensive private schools and were provided with cars. My parents covered their university education. I went to public school and was on my own for college.

My job was to help look after my brothers. I was expected to cook and clean, while my brothers did no chores. From the time I was seven years old, I was told I would "have to leave school and look after the boys" if anything happened to my mother.

Please think about your daughters before considering a school like this.

This is so obviously a fake post. Your telling me that your parents bought all the brothers cars, privte school, and college... then told u that u get nothing? Seriously? No one is falling for this fake post

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am suspicious if Opus Dei. Perhaps the Americanized version is better than the original, but its founder, Josemaria Escriva, had some very unhealthy ideas about corporal mortification and the subjection of women.

https://www.opus-info.org/index.php/Opus_Dei_info:FAQ

Scroll down to the parts "What is the role of women in the Opus Dei ideology?" and "What kind of person was Josemaria Escriva?"

These are NOT ideas I would want my sons to pick up on or my daughters to be exposed to.

Indeed! Normal Catholics know Opus Del is for extremist weirdos.