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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I have younger kids and am not to the hanging out with friends stage yet but is this really an issue for people? This sort of thing happened alllllllll the time growing up. I grew up in a middle lower class town so a lot of friends parents worked nights or weekends and my mom stayed at home and she was super willing to make our house the hang out place (she also yes has a heart of gold and pulled out 6 course meals every night). I had friends over all the time whose parents picked them up after work. I’m scared about what this says about parenting these days if someone asking this one time is this big of an issue. [/quote]

People are very stingy with their help. I was the house that all the kids came to and when I had a medical emergency and not one of the parents would help. My husband needed to be at the hospital with me and we couldn't find anyone to take our elementary aged kids. If anyone does ever help they will either complain about it to everyone else for a year or expect you to take their kid 10 times even though their kid has lived at your house for a year. [/quote]

I think you have to be very specific in your ask. Like you, I’m the hang out house. I carpool. I feed and treat kids when we take kids out.

Could Johnny go home with Mikey next Wednesday after school? I have to take Sally to a doctor’s appointment.

Could you do me a favor? I will be out of town this Friday. Could Sally walk home with you? DH will pick her up on the way home from work.

I once had a military mom ask if her son could spend the night at my house because her husband was on a work trip and she had to attend a funeral. Of course I said yes. Kid came home with me after school, spent the night and I drove kids to school. After school, they came over again and mom came to pick him up.

I had surgery a few years ago and didn’t specifically ask anyone for help. DH took 2 weeks off from work and then my parents came to help. I’m sure if I asked one person per day to help while Dh was with me at the hospital, they would have said yes. Dh would just leave when he had to get the kids and I was alone at the hospital. Most people don’t have someone with them at the hospital the entire time.[/quote]

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