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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote]Except it is. Two wrongs don’t make a right. That’s like saying “you must exert control and hurt other people because you were hurt.” Black and white thinking has no place in real relationships. If you were screwing my DH, please don’t tell me.
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Except it's NOT WRONG for someone to tell the truth - and in this case, it's absolutely the compassionate, honorable thing to do.  You clearly lack integrity and a moral compass, but fortunately, many people don't.[/quote]
Would you look a 6 year old in the face and tell her that the truth is more important than her family staying intact? Is that compassionate? “But sweetheart, don’t you see? My husband doesn’t want me so now I will destroy your mothers family as revenge. It’s for the best, darling.”[/quote]

It's not relaying the message that the destroys the marriage. It's the content of the message. "Don't shoot the messenger" is a common refrain because people try to pull this logical fallacy all the time to shift blame. Do you teach your kids "Don't do things that you don't want other people to know about?" or do you teach them "Do whatever the hell you want, and then if someone finds out, threaten/manipulate/blackmail them so they don't squeal"? If it's the latter, then you're in the mob.

The majority of couples stay together after infidelity is discovered anyway. The only relationships that usually die when affairs are exposed are affairs themselves.

It's super anti-women to imply that men can cheat all they want, and if women don't sacrifice their own well-being in order to protect the cheater from the natural consequences of his choices, then it's "revenge." It's not revenge; it's just not being a door mat/human shield.[/quote]

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