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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I am a therapist. This would have to be reported.

And I agree with the PP, this should not be your biggest concern.[/quote]

What? Because he grabbed the kid? God help our culture if we think it's better to lock up a parent or divorce him because he grabbed his kid too hard in a moment of frustration. Where is the compassion? Where is the proportionality? It really doesn't sound like he was trying to hurt the kid. Maybe he didn't realize how much force he was applying. Maybe he didn't realize the point at which he woudl leave a mark. And what's "a mark," anyway - a bruise? The slight discoloration in skin that comes from pressure or heat and then dissipates after a few seconds? As long as he now acknowledges that he squeezed too tight, I think everyone needs to get over it.[/quote]

+10000[/quote]

I am a different poster and agree with this. It’s legal to spank your kids. He needs better emotional regulation but this isn’t CPS-worthy IMO. And I am a mandated reporter and have reported to CPS before.[/quote]

Therapist here again. Well if you are a mandated reporter, which I am seriously doubting you are, then you would know that it is not our job to decide if something is “CPS worthy", that is up to CPS to decide.  Our job is to report and let CPS take action or decide not to. We risk our license if we decide to make those kinds of calls, but I suppose since you are a “mandated reporter“ you would’ve known that, huh?[/quote]

You sound unstable. Why would anyone seek help from you?

OP NEVER get involved with CPS.
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PP very much does not sound unstable. The only commenters who sound like they are potentially unstable are the ones saying it’s crazy to report because then OP’s husband is going to get “locked up.” [/quote]

Would the family suddenly be better off if he were locked up? Suddenly going from 2 incomes down 1. Spending whatever money they do have on attorneys. Mom suddenly single, on her own, and dealing with the social stigma having a spouse arrested in the front yard/CPS coming and going from the house. Some instances YES this is all worth it! But what OP described is not. Sounds like the guy needs therapy and better parenting tools but he doesn’t sound dangerous.   [/quote]

You obviously get your information from bad soap operas. Her DH would not be “arrested in the front yard” over allegations as OP describes. Worst case they make a home visit. Equally possible they do *nothing*. Plenty of mandatory reports are never followed up. [/quote]

Listen to yourself. Why do it if it is only theater?

As a journalist, I am also of the mind to keep CPS out if it unless there is actual danger involved. You have no idea if you will get someone competent or someone on a power trip.[/quote]

The therapist should do it because it’s ethically required of her. It’s in the OPs best interest because when this escalates (and “triggered by normal child behavior” definitely will escalate) it’s already on recorded as reported by a third party. [/quote]

Your logic is incredibly flawed and dangerous. You don’t break the glass in anticipation of something that may or may not ever happen. You break it IF and when something actually happens. Listen to yourself. “Definitely will escalate” is BS. You are jumping to conclusions and potentially wrecking this family’s life based on your own weak-minded assumptions and paranoia. The DH is already taking responsibility and seeking treatment. Your childlike insistence on seeing this as black and white serves as a warning to others not to get involved with this system.[/quote]

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