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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]ETA to above: Ok, I do not mind paying but I do not like when kids take advantage of my good hospitality. I do not like it when a kid loads up on snacks or frivolous things on my dime in addition to the pizza and snacks and admission that I already purchased. This happened once and this child was not invited with us again. Lately, I took a child berry picking with us and paid admission and for containers. However, the child felt the need to take half of the fruit we picked for herself. I needed a certain amount for canning and barely made the amount I needed. I was not happy with this and she will not be coming with us again. Kids with manners and grace are welcomed. [/quote]

You are the parent in charge when they are with you.  Just say no.  You don’t have to buy them anything and everything.  You can say no to extra snacks, gifts, etc. [/quote]

This but it’s a bit bizarre not to let them bring home some berries they picked.   That is pretty bad to bring a kid to pick fruit and not let them have any.  [/quote]

Please review the difference between "any" and "half" and then try again. Thanks in advance.[/quote]

DP. You said you "barely" had enough for canning. That sounds like you gave the friend almost no berries. If you let her have a few berries out of the many you needed for canning, I'm not exactly blown away by your amazing hospitality. Since this was a trip about you and your canning you should have left the friend at home because it doesn't sound like a fun activity.[/quote]

I’m not that PP. The “almost no berries” is a fiction you created in your head. Try again. One child does not need half of what multiple people in two families picked.[/quote]

Barely had enough sounds a lot like your group didn’t get enough for your sacred canning or you’re just embellishing.  You put it out there, people are just responding. Exactly how much did you give her if there was barely enough for you? just clarify if you want to be understood.  [/quote]

Child was probably given a container of berries.   Child picked Barrie’s and wanted to take their container home.   Seems reasonable to me.  Op should have said you can fill your container to here to take home then I’d appreciate if you could help pick some for me for canning.  [/quote]

Presumably there were at least three people there:  the adult, the adult's kid and her friend greedy berry kid, Why would you give the child "half the berries" you picked?  If the kid asks just say no, we need the berries for xyz or...we each get berries that we picked etc...  [/quote]

This one is an odd complaint. If you took a child berry picking, i don’t think the child is being greedy to want to take berries she picked home. We go berry picking all the time. [/quote]

It seems like it would be easy to just tell the child that she could only have the berries she picked and that would be that. But for the poster to be so angry about this and banning her from joining them ever again makes it seem like something else went down. It's a very odd story. Kids are still learning and figuring these things out, if the parents aren't around and a kid is with me I have no problems letting them know if they are crossing a line or being inappropriate the same way a teacher would. A reminder is all it takes and I don't get bent out of shape when it happens unless a kid didn't seem to listen or care, I wouldn't tolerate blatant disrespect.[/quote]

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