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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]People who have not been in an abusive situation really don’t understand how it works. When I was with my emotionally abusive boyfriend, I felt crazy. I lost my temper all the time, screamed, yelled, etc. That was not my personality before or since. But I felt so powerless and undermined by his constant gaslighting that I started to lose my grip on reality. So when I heard testimony from AH that she pushed Depp or screamed at him, that was familiar to me. She was much younger than him and she was living on the hellscape alternative reality that is life with an abuser. The texts Depp sent about her were absolutely chilling in their misogyny, and it’s the language of abuse that I immediately recognized. I couldn’t even listen to any more after that. The fact that he has so manipulated the public is extremely depressing to me. He is a substance abuser, yes, and also an abuser. [/quote]

Thank you for writing this. I ran into my abuser at a public park months after last seeing them and even though my kid was with me and there were people around, I lost it. Just started crying and swearing and freaking out. My friend kept trying to get me to leave and that is ultimately what we did but at first that suggestion just made me so angry. Why should I have to leave a public space to get away from someone who assaulted me and abused me? Why should I have to tell my kid “nope you gotta get off the swings, we’re leaving” because this person who did terrible things to me has showed up and triggered my PTSD? I was so angry. I remember talking about it with my therapist and she told me about studies where rage is associated with feelings of powerlessness— it’s an emotion of last resort.

What I hate most thinking back though is how an outsider looking at that situation would have seen me crying and ranting and raving and thought I was nuts, and seen my abuser being calm and saying/doing nothing and assumed they were in the right. And that’s how abuse looks all the time. The person in control looks, well, in control. The victim is losing it because they are terrified and angry. So people believe the abuser. I mean look how calm he is. And look at this woman with her crocodile tears— she must be lying.

This trial has brought so much back. I avoided it as much as I could but it’s so familiar you can’t not look. This is what abuse looks like.[/quote]

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