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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, I was working a 60 hour a week job and my husband was working a 40 hour a week job when we had a new baby.   Your husband isn't stepping up--he's doing the bare minimum.  A couple that works a combined 100 hour week doesn't have time for 3 hours of video games a night.  Entertainment consists of listing to a podcast while cleaning the kitchen and packing for the next day and doing laundry.

I'd suggest you consider coming home for family time post-daycare and before dinner.  That way you get family time and he gets support with the kid while you make dinner together.  Then you can sign back onto work while he does house stuff.  He shouldn't be too tired then since you'll have shared baby duty post-daycare.

Your husband needs to step up.  All of the commenters railing on you for working too much would never say that to a man. They may claim differently, but don't believe it.[/quote]

Op: I did that a few times and it did not work.

He ate dinner. Sent a few emails taking advantage that I was there and after the kid went to bed, he went on to relax while I did the remainder of the house chores. And I did not finish my work. [/quote]

Op: Agree. Other than laundry and dishes and home repairs, all new work is child-related.

OP, half of those house chores are yours to do! That has nothing to do with the fact that you have a child.  He is not responsible for all of the house chores simply because you work more hours than he does.  That’s the thing I don’t think you quite get.  Having a child didn’t release you from household chores.[/quote][/quote]

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