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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]does anyone feel like we are doing carrying the mental load for OP?  You all have done all the work for them in spelling out what mental load means!

BTW, in my house, I am playing chicken with the mental load.  Oh, you didn't think about what we need to eat for dinner?  Oh well, cereal it is.  Oh, you didn't think about what to get for your staff for xmas?  Yes, gas cards sound just fine.  If I don't care, it's not happening.  For example, we will probably never go to disney again, because I really don't want to do the planning to go somewhere that I really don't like very much.[/quote]

Yes to this. I told my DH earlier this year that I would no longer plan any aspect of visits to his family. I did not say out loud, but I think he knows, that visiting his family sucks for me -- they are rude and demanding to me, and it feels like a waste of a vacation. And since then, he plans it. I cannot tell you what a load off it was for him to figure out the itinerary for Thanksgiving, book a rental for us, etc. I packed and while on the trip I parented our kid. But it wasn't my trip, I was just along for the ride. Such a good resetting of priorities and expectations.[/quote]

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