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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]So, my age is not an issue, but DH might be too old?  Anybody out there have kids with an older spouse want to share their experience?  I don't think I care if DH can keep up with our kids in a tennis match or on the ski slopes when they are teenagers. I do care if a future child would suffer in other ways for having an older dad, so what are all the ways they might suffer? Is it socially awkward to have older parents?  Is it the emotional burden of knowing that your parent may not be around for your wedding or to meet your grandchildren, or worrying that you'll have to live in this world without both of your parents for longer than others?

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[quote=Anonymous] Can you share more about the marital stresses that come up around the adult kids?[/quote]

Stressors that I think are typical of blended families like ours. I think they boil down to time and resources that go from DH to his adult children, which someone could argue are excessive because DH feels guilty his first marriage didn't work out.   I understand from the perspective DH's adult kids that DH's new wife and child take away time and resources from them, so there's just a division there that might never go away.

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I was 34 and DH was 47 when we had our third child (I was 29 and DH 42 with our first child). Our kids are still little (our youngest is 2.5), but DH has more energy, patience and stamina than I do. DH runs with me every day 5 to 6 miles and then he play tennis for an hour at lunch. DH also did most of the night wake ups with all 3 of our children… he is a young soul (and even immature sometimes)… age is very relative in my opinion. I know plenty of 35 year olds that are too old to be dads while my husband at 47 (59 now) is doing just fine.

Oh and he teaches tennis to our older 2 kids![/quote]

Ridiculous comparison. OP’s DH is 52 already and she’s contemplating a newborn. Your DH was a good ten years older when you had your last child. This is an apples and oranges comparison.[/quote]

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