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[quote=Anonymous]OMG I dated an older man who ended up being 14 years older than me (initially he led me to believe he was only 4 years older) with a kid entering college and for various reasons decided it was better to be a single mom than have a baby with him. (Also not keen on taking care of him after his prostate surgery or his ailing mother…).  Your post makes me even more certain that was the right decision.

If you want a second child I would go for it.  Especially if you think your resources would be adequate in the event of divorce.  I would not add loss of the the potential second child to the list of resentments you have towards your husband (which would not be quite fair anyways since he is willing)

I’m a lot older than you and just had my first but am thinking about a second (it’s a resource issue for me.) I was an only child and always wanted a sibling. And I have always dreamed of having 2 children.  (I also think my relationship with my child(ren) would be healthier with two.) I realize that it’s a totally different situation but this is a place where I would not compromise what I have always envisioned just because the marriage isn’t perfect if I otherwise had the resources to be a single mom of two. (Because of the marital difficulties have to be prepared for that outcome.)

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