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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]DH here. I don’t see what the big deal is. He’s home all day with newborns as well and wants to join a weekend trip with his buddies.

Despite the hype, mothering two kids and keeping them alive for 3 days isn’t climbing Everest. [/quote]

Please tell us more about your expertise on mothering, male human. [/quote]

Literally half the planet has done it since the dawn of time? I know that much. And 99%+ of those have done it under a whole hell of a lot more duress than “my husband went to Vegas for 2.5 days” and left me in my suburban, air-conditioned, well-appointed 5000 square foot home with two kids. Get over yourselves. [/quote]

[i]Well...certain type of victim woman will take a lot of shit from their DH.  The DH who wrote above is married to a woman with low self-esteem and can get away by doing these kinds of things.

Feel sorry for the children who are raised in such shitty marriages.

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Wait, let me get this straight. We have low self esteem and shitty marriages because we facilitate our DHs weekend trip with friends?

Do you hear yourself?

Girl, are you okay? [/quote]

Ones who brush off the difficulty of caring for a newborn and a toddler alone as not a big deal? And who apparently don’t have a clue that one person caring for them alone is not something that has been done since the dawn of time and that throughout most of history and still in most cultures mothers have help? If you are married to somebody like this, I do feel bad for you. You are letting your husband get away with being an ass. [/quote]

Maybe I'm just more competent at mothering but no, I do not think a newborn and toddler are all that difficult. I have had three children close in age while my husband traveled extensively for work. Now he makes a fortune. You don't have to feel sorry for me. Just FYI, doubling down as you are confirms my suspicions that you're projecting your shitty marriage issues here. I hope your husband is okay. Good luck in your divorce. [/quote]

First, I’m not the PP. Second, this isn’t about how hard it is for you. It’s about a man, who in all likelihood hasn’t ever taken care of a newborn and a three year old alone (but who definitely has no clue how difficult OP’s kids are), flippantly saying that somebody who thinks it’s hard is being dramatic. It’s rude and it’s ignorant. The guy is a jerk and it’s weird that you’re defending a random internet dude who is probably a massive misogynist. [/quote]

I'm not defending the mansplainer.

I'm defending those of us that facilitate our husband's leisure time even while we have young kids and newborns against PP who surmised that we have low self esteem and shitty marriages. [/quote]

Note that lots of comments in this thread said “personally I would be fine with that” and the nobody accused them of having low self-esteem and shitty marriages. The comment in question comes from a man who is a special kind of douchebag, and your coming in and identifying with his wife and defending your self-esteem, as opposed to saying “hey dude that’s a shitty thing to say,” was really off-base. Especially when you started making comments about your superior parenting abilities, your superior marriage, and your husbands large income.

I genuinely think you should examine your internalized misogyny. 
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