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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I agree with those who have said it was important for DH to support DDs wishes in this moment. As another poster said, she wanted to be heard and supported, not ignored and defended against her wishes.

I understand the impulse to want to yell at the boys and[b] it isn’t fair that they didn’t face consequences [/b]but retaining your daughters trust is so, so important. She knows that she can talk to DH and trust him to respect her. If he was to yell and make a scene against her will she would have felt humiliated and likely would not confide in him if this were to happen again. [/quote]

Consequences for what?   "The boys" didn't do anything wrong.  One did, that doesn't mean they all face consequences.[/quote]

I think they all should. Either they fess up who did it so he can be banned, or they all get banned.

Bystander training - which is teaching bystanders what to do when they witness assault - is one of the most effective ways to prevent sexual assault. They all need to learn that being a silent witness is not acceptable, and they need to report males that assault females, even if it’s their friend. [/quote]

Maybe YOU should be banned.   You are no less culpable than they are.   Follow your own "rules" and ban yourself from everywhere.  [/quote]

If I witnessed an assault and did nothing, then yes, I’m at fault. But I did not witness this incident.

As I said, bystander training is one of the most effective ways to prevent sexual assault. Brock Turner would not have been caught had other people not intervened.

I do understand OP’s DH’s decision to respect his daughters wishes. However, I believe one of my roles as a parent is to draw boundaries for my children when they are unable to draw their own due to age. I personally would have called the police and notified hotel security in that situation. I believe that is an appropriate reaction for 14 year old boys.

What I don’t understand is why everyone is so quick to defend those boys. What they did was wrong, and it’s better to help them understand why *now* rather than in 10 years when they could potentially hurt someone even worse.

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