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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]"Clearly, neither of you has my husband's job. Might you even consider that some people have jobs in which they are not able to take off the way you are as to? "

Then the other spouse is essentially forced to SAH or work pt, and hopefully the spouse with the inflexible job is being paid enough to compensate for the inflexibility.[/quote]

Over $2 million per year.  Yes, it's a worthwhile trade-off for us for a few years.  I can still do some project work, but nothing that requires me to travel, work long hours on short notice, or work long hours regularly.  Actually, I "could" do those things, but it would not make sense for us and he amount that we feel some parent should be available to our kids and for family issues.  I'm no less competent than my friends who are currently working FT or PT because I stay home.  We're doing what's best for our family, and what will allow us all the most flexibility in the near future.  [/quote]

I'm sure in your case that's correct. But for people not in the 99.5% of annual income, if you're a parent, you need to come up with ways to get flexibility. My DH and I both make about $100,000. Good salaries, but we still need to be flexible in our jobs if we are going to co parent.  Your spouse's time is very clearly being bought by his employer and so of course at that income level he can't have any flexibility.[/quote]

The last post quoted sounds like we all just have flexible arrangements available and we just aren't using them.  I WISH I could have a 35 hr. a week job, a short commute and grandparents who could watch the kids or pick them up from school.  As it turns out, I spent 10 hrs. per week commuting, have no relatives nearby, worked shift-work with NO flexibility and actually flew my mother into town (at $300 a pop) whenever DH's work scheduled travel (50% of the time the travel plans were cancelled within a week of the travel).  I think we all know that it would be nice to have flexibility, but the reality is that we all don't have jobs or opportunities or support networks (or the income to pay for nannies) that allow two parents to work fulltime with limited stress.  So, we all evaluate the costs/benefits and make our own plans.

I SO do not get these WOH women who feel the need to report that they are doing all of what I do as a SAHM and MORE!  Do you want a prize?  News flash here --- I'm not interested in competing with you!  I'm doing life my way and you can do it yours.  You probably claim to be a feminist, but actually, you're the complete opposite of a feminist b/c you want to choose for all women what we must do.  It used to be that men decided for women that they would stay home.  If you want to be a real feminist, then accept that your sisters can choose a different path than you and it's all good for all of us.  [/quote]

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