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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Ummmm, this is just wrong on all kinds of levels. Tell him you're pregnant, then move home. I doubt if he'd be interested in the child anyway since he's seemed to have moved on, but not telling him is just wrong and the child will want to know his/her father. Don't make a jacked up situation worse. [/quote]

Abusers will often control their victims by controlling children and pets. It's one reason why children and pets are part of protective orders. OP's abuser may have moved on in the sense that he's not exclusive with her, but he still seems very much involved with trying to hurt her - and what better way is there to hurt her than to hurt their child. I think she's actually in a lot of danger if she tells him she's pregnant while still living in the same house. You don't know what he might do to her, and to the baby.

OP: You need to talk to a lawyer. ASAP. You need to find out what your legal obligations are with your abuser, and what you can do to protect yourself and your child, assuming you want to keep him or her. I'm so sorry you are going through this, but you must get yourself to safety before he hurts you worse, or hurts your child. Don't make your decisions based on DCUM lawyers. You need a real family lawyer who can tell you your real options. And good luck - this sounds wrenching, and I hope you and your baby come out of it safely.[/quote]

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