Reply to Dating advice for divorced dad

Forum Index » Relationship Discussion (non-explicit)

Reply to "Dating advice for divorced dad"

Subject:

Emoticons





More smilies

Text Color: Font: Close Marks

[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I'm a 46-yo, skinny, physically fit/active, working (tho not even close to the same income bracket as a BigLaw partner) mom of two elementary aged kids, considering a divorce.  I'm looking for a contentious-free home, companionship and love, since it's all missing in my current situation.  It just sounds so lob-sided from reading this thread.  I'd like my kids to have a male role model in the house, since I believe it's important and would rather not spend the next decade trying to secure this for my children.  [Read: may find it easier to deal with my internal requirements than sacrifice my kids opportunity to benefit from having a "dad" role model at home.] How difficult is the dating world for someone like me given what I'm hoping for in the future? [/quote]

I'm 40 with 2 kids also elementary and going through divorce.  Covid has certainly changed a lot of typical 'dating' life, but I would say it's incredibly difficult to manage both being a single mom and primary caretaker of young kids and dating.  What works for my schedule doesn't always work for the men in whom I'm interested.  Finding someone economically and intellectually compatible is also an issue.  You may find lots of opportunities for hookups, perhaps as many as single dads find, but to get to the 'happily ever after with a blended family' is something that can take a while.  I think that is something that can easily take several years and not something you should walk into without understanding, given you have a desire to have a man at home to model "dad" for the kids.  It's not something that was as relevant to me.  I grew up with a single mom who took care of me and my siblings with my father in another home (with a new family) and I don't think I lost out on a male role model.  I also don't know your situation so cannot say how involved your husband is now with the kids or will be once you actually separate.  Are you considering staying in the house while separating, or being in different homes/apartments?  Maybe the best option for you is a separation while your husband stays in the house.  Maybe someone on this forum has done that and can speak to it.  Not sure how that actually works or not.  [/quote]

Options

	Disable HTML in this message
	Disable BB Code in this message
	Disable smilies in this message

Review message

Search Recent Topics Hottest Topics