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Anonymous wrote:I'm a 46-yo, skinny, physically fit/active, working (tho not even close to the same income bracket as a BigLaw partner) mom of two elementary aged kids, considering a divorce. I'm looking for a contentious-free home, companionship and love, since it's all missing in my current situation. It just sounds so lob-sided from reading this thread. I'd like my kids to have a male role model in the house, since I believe it's important and would rather not spend the next decade trying to secure this for my children. [Read: may find it easier to deal with my internal requirements than sacrifice my kids opportunity to benefit from having a "dad" role model at home.] How difficult is the dating world for someone like me given what I'm hoping for in the future?

Why isn’t your children’s actual dad providing them with the benefits of a dad role model? That’s his job.

Stepkids resent stepdads and reject their authority. Are you going to support your new husband’s authority over your kids? Your kids will be mad at you if you do, your new husband will be mad at you if you don’t.

You’d have much better luck dating a guy while maintaining separate households than trying the Brady Bunch thing.

Anonymous wrote:I'm a 46-yo, skinny, physically fit/active, working (tho not even close to the same income bracket as a BigLaw partner) mom of two elementary aged kids, considering a divorce. I'm looking for a contentious-free home, companionship and love, since it's all missing in my current situation. It just sounds so lob-sided from reading this thread. I'd like my kids to have a male role model in the house, since I believe it's important and would rather not spend the next decade trying to secure this for my children. [Read: may find it easier to deal with my internal requirements than sacrifice my kids opportunity to benefit from having a "dad" role model at home.] How difficult is the dating world for someone like me given what I'm hoping for in the future?

Anonymous wrote:I'm a 46-yo, skinny, physically fit/active, working (tho not even close to the same income bracket as a BigLaw partner) mom of two elementary aged kids, considering a divorce. I'm looking for a contentious-free home, companionship and love, since it's all missing in my current situation. It just sounds so lob-sided from reading this thread. I'd like my kids to have a male role model in the house, since I believe it's important and would rather not spend the next decade trying to secure this for my children. [Read: may find it easier to deal with my internal requirements than sacrifice my kids opportunity to benefit from having a "dad" role model at home.] How difficult is the dating world for someone like me given what I'm hoping for in the future?

Anonymous wrote:Definitely choose a women with kids ..as she will have the same lifestyle as you. You will not have to worry about the childfree by choice crowd..they will totally avoid you. Choose to spend time with someone who is in the same boat as you as you will understand each other more.

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Anonymous wrote:If you make good money and are relatively physically attractive it is super easy to date women 10-15 years younger at your age. More than half of men (even young men) are now overweight and the median income is paltry. There really is very little competition

But the woman will drop him after a few years because of age difference and find someone her own age. But if he does not care about that then he can proceed.

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Anonymous wrote:If you make good money and are relatively physically attractive it is super easy to date women 10-15 years younger at your age. More than half of men (even young men) are now overweight and the median income is paltry. There really is very little competition

But the woman will drop him after a few years because of age difference and find someone her own age. But if he does not care about that then he can proceed.

Anonymous wrote:If you make good money and are relatively physically attractive it is super easy to date women 10-15 years younger at your age. More than half of men (even young men) are now overweight and the median income is paltry. There really is very little competition

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Anonymous wrote:Hi OP, I am a 45 year old big law partner, also divorced supporting a SAHM with 2 middle school age kids. Exact same situation, make very good money, obviously not as much to go around as before but dropping a few thousand on a fancy weekend away for a woman I am interest in is meaningless money.

These responses are complete nonsense and likely written by bitter first wives who want to see you lonely and punished. Ignore them.

You will have absolutely zero problems finding dates. Actually, it will be exhausting doing on line dating because you will have so many women match with you. Many of them will be much younger. I agree with one PP, you need to be fair to them that you are not looking for a second wife and kids because many women in their 30s are. Even if they tell you they aren't sure.

Yes, wear a condom. Of course.

Tinder is fine for hookups. Bumble is good too. Again, you will be surprised at how many younger, attractive women you will match with. If you are like some of my divorced friends, you may go through a promiscuous phase because it's so abundant, like far easier than when you were younger. But you will ultimately see that easy sex with random women creates more headache than it's worth. I can give you some funny and not so funny stories.

Single mom's are my preferred partners. They understand that when I have the kids, I am not available and I respect that they have the same situation.

Good luck, it's a crazy world out there but lots of great women looking for real connections.

Woman here. The huge factor here is that PP makes very good money. Divorced men making up to 150k or so reading this will not have the same experience. It is pretty rare to encounter a big law firm partner in his forties on dating apps.

Nope. I am the PP who said he does not make as much as the BigLaw partner. In fact I make about $160k. And what the BigLaw partner said is exactly my experience: zero problem finding dates, lots of women matching with me, including much younger ones. It's a lot of work managing all the conversations. I could easily have a date every night if I wanted to. Like him I prefer the single moms because they understand I'm not available when I have the kids.

Well I am a woman and I can tell you I could also easily find a date for every night if I was still online. (I’m dating someone now but have done a lot of online dating). It’s not all one sided.

Yes. Another woman here. Guys don’t realize we are swimming in options at pretty much any age.

Yeah. I’m 45 and can fall on a dick any day I want to. Great profile and in 24 hours of reactivating it I have 1200 likes- that’s actually the problem- it’s be easier to have my assistant sort the wheat from the chaff than to spend the time doing it myself. I’d rather have 5 legit likes from men with jobs, few felonies, and who earn similar to me (mid 6 ). . I could fill every meal with some D if I wanted, but I don’t.

I’ve been OLD for a while now but I am not looking for long term- just a seasonal or spending on sport (ski, or golf). I’m a high earner and love being a single woman. I’d date cha.

You sound lovely. Are you looking for an accessory or a relationship? Keep it klassy.

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Anonymous wrote:Hi OP, I am a 45 year old big law partner, also divorced supporting a SAHM with 2 middle school age kids. Exact same situation, make very good money, obviously not as much to go around as before but dropping a few thousand on a fancy weekend away for a woman I am interest in is meaningless money.

These responses are complete nonsense and likely written by bitter first wives who want to see you lonely and punished. Ignore them.

You will have absolutely zero problems finding dates. Actually, it will be exhausting doing on line dating because you will have so many women match with you. Many of them will be much younger. I agree with one PP, you need to be fair to them that you are not looking for a second wife and kids because many women in their 30s are. Even if they tell you they aren't sure.

Yes, wear a condom. Of course.

Tinder is fine for hookups. Bumble is good too. Again, you will be surprised at how many younger, attractive women you will match with. If you are like some of my divorced friends, you may go through a promiscuous phase because it's so abundant, like far easier than when you were younger. But you will ultimately see that easy sex with random women creates more headache than it's worth. I can give you some funny and not so funny stories.

Single mom's are my preferred partners. They understand that when I have the kids, I am not available and I respect that they have the same situation.

Good luck, it's a crazy world out there but lots of great women looking for real connections.

Woman here. The huge factor here is that PP makes very good money. Divorced men making up to 150k or so reading this will not have the same experience. It is pretty rare to encounter a big law firm partner in his forties on dating apps.

Nope. I am the PP who said he does not make as much as the BigLaw partner. In fact I make about $160k. And what the BigLaw partner said is exactly my experience: zero problem finding dates, lots of women matching with me, including much younger ones. It's a lot of work managing all the conversations. I could easily have a date every night if I wanted to. Like him I prefer the single moms because they understand I'm not available when I have the kids.

Well I am a woman and I can tell you I could also easily find a date for every night if I was still online. (I’m dating someone now but have done a lot of online dating). It’s not all one sided.

Yes. Another woman here. Guys don’t realize we are swimming in options at pretty much any age.

Yeah. I’m 45 and can fall on a dick any day I want to. Great profile and in 24 hours of reactivating it I have 1200 likes- that’s actually the problem- it’s be easier to have my assistant sort the wheat from the chaff than to spend the time doing it myself. I’d rather have 5 legit likes from men with jobs, few felonies, and who earn similar to me (mid 6 ). . I could fill every meal with some D if I wanted, but I don’t.

I’ve been OLD for a while now but I am not looking for long term- just a seasonal or spending on sport (ski, or golf). I’m a high earner and love being a single woman. I’d date cha.

You sound lovely. Are you looking for an accessory or a relationship? Keep it klassy.

Anonymous wrote:I'm a mid-40s divorced dad, and here's what I'd like: A woman who looks sexy AF in a tennis outfit. Twice a week, we'd play some competitive tennis, screw, and share a meal (or tennis, meal,screw, who cares ... or tennis, screw, meal, screw). That would be perfect. Haven't found it yet, though.

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Anonymous wrote:Op, I am a recently divorced 37 year old with 70% custody of my elementary aged kids. ExDH has a demanding, high-paying job and like you, defaulted to giving me more money and custody to keep the kids’ lives as close to what they are accustomed to as possible. At least for now. And what they are accustomed to is me working part-time from home and Dad working long hours and weekends. None of that has changed. If I had more time to myself, I would totally date you. Unfortunately that is where I have been screwed over. I love my kids to death but I barely have time for me, let alone someone else... and before anyone jumps down my throat, my exDH doesn’t want our kids anymore than every other weekend and one overnight a week.

Which isn’t good for the kids. He should be seeing him more.

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Anonymous wrote:Hi OP, I am a 45 year old big law partner, also divorced supporting a SAHM with 2 middle school age kids. Exact same situation, make very good money, obviously not as much to go around as before but dropping a few thousand on a fancy weekend away for a woman I am interest in is meaningless money.

These responses are complete nonsense and likely written by bitter first wives who want to see you lonely and punished. Ignore them.

You will have absolutely zero problems finding dates. Actually, it will be exhausting doing on line dating because you will have so many women match with you. Many of them will be much younger. I agree with one PP, you need to be fair to them that you are not looking for a second wife and kids because many women in their 30s are. Even if they tell you they aren't sure.

Yes, wear a condom. Of course.

Tinder is fine for hookups. Bumble is good too. Again, you will be surprised at how many younger, attractive women you will match with. If you are like some of my divorced friends, you may go through a promiscuous phase because it's so abundant, like far easier than when you were younger. But you will ultimately see that easy sex with random women creates more headache than it's worth. I can give you some funny and not so funny stories.

Single mom's are my preferred partners. They understand that when I have the kids, I am not available and I respect that they have the same situation.

Good luck, it's a crazy world out there but lots of great women looking for real connections.

Woman here. The huge factor here is that PP makes very good money. Divorced men making up to 150k or so reading this will not have the same experience. It is pretty rare to encounter a big law firm partner in his forties on dating apps.

Nope. I am the PP who said he does not make as much as the BigLaw partner. In fact I make about $160k. And what the BigLaw partner said is exactly my experience: zero problem finding dates, lots of women matching with me, including much younger ones. It's a lot of work managing all the conversations. I could easily have a date every night if I wanted to. Like him I prefer the single moms because they understand I'm not available when I have the kids.

Well I am a woman and I can tell you I could also easily find a date for every night if I was still online. (I’m dating someone now but have done a lot of online dating). It’s not all one sided.

Yes. Another woman here. Guys don’t realize we are swimming in options at pretty much any age.

Yeah. I’m 45 and can fall on a dick any day I want to. Great profile and in 24 hours of reactivating it I have 1200 likes- that’s actually the problem- it’s be easier to have my assistant sort the wheat from the chaff than to spend the time doing it myself. I’d rather have 5 legit likes from men with jobs, few felonies, and who earn similar to me (mid 6 ). . I could fill every meal with some D if I wanted, but I don’t.

I’ve been OLD for a while now but I am not looking for long term- just a seasonal or spending on sport (ski, or golf). I’m a high earner and love being a single woman. I’d date cha.

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Anonymous wrote:Hi OP, I am a 45 year old big law partner, also divorced supporting a SAHM with 2 middle school age kids. Exact same situation, make very good money, obviously not as much to go around as before but dropping a few thousand on a fancy weekend away for a woman I am interest in is meaningless money.

These responses are complete nonsense and likely written by bitter first wives who want to see you lonely and punished. Ignore them.

You will have absolutely zero problems finding dates. Actually, it will be exhausting doing on line dating because you will have so many women match with you. Many of them will be much younger. I agree with one PP, you need to be fair to them that you are not looking for a second wife and kids because many women in their 30s are. Even if they tell you they aren't sure.

Yes, wear a condom. Of course.

Tinder is fine for hookups. Bumble is good too. Again, you will be surprised at how many younger, attractive women you will match with. If you are like some of my divorced friends, you may go through a promiscuous phase because it's so abundant, like far easier than when you were younger. But you will ultimately see that easy sex with random women creates more headache than it's worth. I can give you some funny and not so funny stories.

Single mom's are my preferred partners. They understand that when I have the kids, I am not available and I respect that they have the same situation.

Good luck, it's a crazy world out there but lots of great women looking for real connections.

Woman here. The huge factor here is that PP makes very good money. Divorced men making up to 150k or so reading this will not have the same experience. It is pretty rare to encounter a big law firm partner in his forties on dating apps.

Nope. I am the PP who said he does not make as much as the BigLaw partner. In fact I make about $160k. And what the BigLaw partner said is exactly my experience: zero problem finding dates, lots of women matching with me, including much younger ones. It's a lot of work managing all the conversations. I could easily have a date every night if I wanted to. Like him I prefer the single moms because they understand I'm not available when I have the kids.

Well I am a woman and I can tell you I could also easily find a date for every night if I was still online. (I’m dating someone now but have done a lot of online dating). It’s not all one sided.

Yes. Another woman here. Guys don’t realize we are swimming in options at pretty much any age.

Yeah. I’m 45 and can fall on a dick any day I want to. Great profile and in 24 hours of reactivating it I have 1200 likes- that’s actually the problem- it’s be easier to have my assistant sort the wheat from the chaff than to spend the time doing it myself. I’d rather have 5 legit likes from men with jobs, few felonies, and who earn similar to me (mid 6 ). . I could fill every meal with some D if I wanted, but I don’t.

I’ve been OLD for a while now but I am not looking for long term- just a seasonal or spending on sport (ski, or golf). I’m a high earner and love being a single woman. I’d date cha.