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[quote=Anonymous]That you can post this list with a  straight face is mind boggling.  DH and i both work full time and both contribute sizably to $800k HHI (i think he's at $450k and me $350k).

preparing meals- 3-5 hours/wk -- WE SPLIT. AND THIS ISN'T 'MEAL PREP'. THIS IS JUST MAKING DINNER AND CLEAN UP DURING THE WEEK TIME.  
school volunteering - 2-3 hours/wk -- ALMOST NONE. WITH RARE EXCEPTION, I HAVE NEVER SEEN AN IMPORTANT SCHOOL VOLUNTEER JOB THAT ISN'T MAKE WORK FOR THE SAHMS. 
other volunteering - 2-3 hours/wk -- NONE. 
grocery shopping - 1-2 hours/wk - WE SPLIT
general cleaning the house - 3-5 hours/wk - HOUSECLEANER SPENDS 6 HOURS EVERY SECOND WEEK
shuttling kids around to doctor/dentist/orthodontist or going to school play etc - 2-3 hours/wk  - THIS NUMBER IS SUPER INFLATED. I HANDLE IT FOR MY MODERATELY SPECIAL NEEDS CHILD. DURING SCHOOL HOURS, IT'S 2-3 HOURS A MONTH.  
general errands (new clothes, running to target, post office, etc) - 1-2 hours/wk - THIS IS CALLED INTERNET SURFING.  IF YOU THINK YOU DESERVE ALIMONY FOR THIS, YOU ARE NUTS. 
laundry - 2-3 hours/wk - 30 MINUTES A WEEK SPREAD OUT OVER 2 MINUTE INCREMENTS. 
yard work (mowing, planting flowers, shoveling snow, etc) - 2-3 hours/wk - YEAH RIGHT YOU DO THIS. 
general paperwork, managing finances - 1-2 hours/wk - 30 MINUTES A MONTH. DH HANDLES. 
organizing/decorating house (moving out seasonal clothing, getting rid of junk, painting, etc) - 2-4 hours/wk  YOU ARE A LOON.

So the "during the school day" stuff is the 6 hours every two weeks for housecleaner, 2-3 hours a month for my special needs kid, 30 minutes of laundry a week, 30 minutes of paperwork.  i'm not including meals because that's dumb.   That's a total of 16 hours of work every month.  so you think you deserve lifetime alimony by adding 16 hours a month of ease to your working spouse's life?  
exercise - 3-5 hours/wk
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