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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]^ so many of us working moms do all of those SAHM chores as well—the meals, school volunteering, grocery shopping and shuttling and many of the spouses pitch in as well.  That argument never resonated with me.  I think many SAHMs have serious time management issues coupled with inherent laziness—especially the ones that never go back to work.[/quote]

This kind of drives me crazy.  Very likely you either don't do it, or you have real help.

If you are a SAHM with kid in school, that's about 30 hours a week on your own.

preparing meals- 3-5 hours/wk
school volunteering - 2-3 hours/wk
other volunteering - 2-3 hours/wk
grocery shopping - 1-2 hours/wk
general cleaning the house - 3-5 hours/wk
shuttling kids around to doctor/dentist/orthodontist or going to school play etc - 2-3 hours/wk 
general errands (new clothes, running to target, post office, etc) - 1-2 hours/wk
laundry - 2-3 hours/wk
yard work (mowing, planting flowers, shoveling snow, etc) - 2-3 hours/wk
general paperwork, managing finances - 1-2 hours/wk
organizing/decorating house (moving out seasonal clothing, getting rid of junk, painting, etc) - 2-4 hours/wk
exercise - 3-5 hours/wk

So, that's 24-40 hours/wk that is mostly outside of actual childcare  (if you take out exercise it's 21-35 hours/wk).  If you are doing this while working, then either your entire evenings and much of your weekends are devoted to these things, you aren't actually getting some things done, or you have someone else (spouse, housekeeper, parent, etc) who is doing a lot of it for you.   
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Your proving prior poster’s point.  Time management issues. Exercise and volunteering are both optional and not SAHP specific  so there is 8-12 hours a week of time.

Laundry - 2-3 hours/wk- Do you stare at the machine while it’s running? It takes two minutes to load and switch to the dryer. Folding is ten minutes max per load and cut it down by having the kids do their own. 
Grocery Shopping- 1-2 hours/wk - order  it online and delivered. List auto populated with frequent items and new list is maximum ten minutes to add items
Meal Prep- 3-5 hrs - make quicker 30 min meals.
General Errands- 2-3 hours - don’t need new clothes or to go to Target, takes 5 mins to order necessary items online. I go to the post office maybe 3x a year.
General House keeping- 3-5 hours - most SAHPs I know have but-weekly housekeepers, if your scrubbing floors the  1-2 hours a week sounds right.
Paperwork- 1-2 hours...bills are largely on autopay. There are school forms that every parent working or not takes 30
Seconds to fill out. Are you reading SEC filings for your day trading business? 
Yard Work- 2-3 hrs a week - we don’t believe you spend hours shoveling snow in the winter.
Organizing - 2-4 hours a week- no way, seasonal clothes is 2-3 hours a year and touch up paint the same and how does organizing differ from general cleaning that you apparently spend 5 hours a week on
Shuttling kids - those appointments are 2x a year unless one of your DCs are chronically ill. All parents go to the school play ...2x
A year at most. Same with drop off ...it’s not a SAHP exclusive.

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