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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, what do you look like? Are you a catch? Or are you one of those frumpy girls who put too much time into their masters degrees? Are you a workaholic?

Also, define UMC. Does age/race/height matter?[/quote]

Hi, Op here.  I think I am a catch. I was raised conservatively so I waited until marriage to have sex at 29. I am cultured and well traveled. I am a good and kind sister, daughter and friend. I am passionate about my work and making the world a better place although I wish I earned more. I was a live-in nanny for a few years as I completed prestigious unpaid internships and raising those kids was some of the best and most fulfilling times I have had. My parents are what you would say are "nice" people. I know how to host dinner parties and am a wonderful cook. I also have a high sex drive and want it at least once a day. I am goal oriented and clear eyed about what I want. I am mature, thoughtful and silly and goofy.

I don't care so much about race but I want a clean cut well education man with goals and a good head on his shoulders.  Someone who wants a family and has high standards for himself and those around him. Salary should be over 120k at least, if we are going to be living locally. [/quote]

I'm a man.

Here are the things from your list about positives about yourself that no successful UMC man cares about (and maybe even no man at all cares about):
- I am a good and kind sister, daughter
- I am passionate about my work and making the world a better place 
- I was a live-in nanny for a few years
- I completed prestigious unpaid internships
- I know how to host dinner parties
- I am goal oriented

Here are things a man might care about from your list:
- clear eyed about what I want (men can't stand wishy washy behavior)
- I am mature, thoughtful and silly and goofy. (always good to have fun)
- am a wonderful cook (semi-bonus)
- I waited until marriage to have sex at 29 (shows you didn't piss away your 20s boozing and sleeping around, a strong negative for wife material)
- I am cultured and well traveled. (potential positive but certainly not necessary)

Here are things a man definitely cares about:
- I also have a high sex drive and want it at least once a day.

You've got some positives but it's worth noting that you listed an equal number of things that a man most likely doesn't care about at all as your marketable positives. Does it mean you are overperceiving your value by 50%? You be the judge.
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I agree. Know what you want and be clear on what you expect. If you know what you want, you have a better chance of getting it. I knew the type of guy I wanted would probably not go on a dating app, so I focused on networking and asking friends to set me up. It worked. [/quote]

I don't have friends though. All my friends turned out to be major flakes. I'm a very young looking late 30s f never married who 20 somethings always mistake me for their age. Younger men frequently hit on me but I'd like someone single mature and settled and a little closer to my age. If I look at guys in their 40s they look like my father. [/quote]

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