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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP I speak as a parent of 2 kids with Asperger’s.  There is a lot of individual variation in life skills.  I think you need to have a conversation with the parents to understand what kind of support your niece may need during this internship. It would help to clarify expectations for everyone. If she has a counselor she works with at school, does she need to find someone locally to fill that role or will you be the one assisting her in thinking through social expectations/ situations.

I would ask about the groceries in the same vein/ joking with my sibling about my own shopping habits/ budget and asking if how niece  handles those things at school. I would also ask about other preferences like shampoo/ towels etc.  I like to be a good host, but it also serves to remind the parents of the needs/ complexities of their child.

Since these challenges run in families I have seen wildly varying expectations on all sides, so open conversations are definitely the way to go.  I often send gift cards to people who are hosting my kids to cover incidentals.  Nobody agrees to take money in advance, but [b]my DD needs strawberries with her breakfast in the morning [/b]and I would rather defray those weird costs than have someone feel resentful.  I also send my kids with enough spending money to buy dinner and instructions to clean up after home- cooked meals in any way possible.

But my Aspie who is very particular about dishwasher losing is instructed to help clear the table and load/  unload the car, entertain young children.  Because nobody needs feedback from a guest about dishwasher losing.

Good luck! This can be a great experience for you and your niece![/quote]

Wants. Your daughter wants strawberries in the morning. She could do without them. [/quote]

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