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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote]Hecka yah, who wouldn’t love to have someone give them money to do whatever the heck they want all day? Of course I’m jealous! [/quote]

WTF?  [/quote]

Kids in college, DH working and providing all the cash she needs for hobbies, volunteering, yoga and lunch.  What is confusing about that?[/quote]

Op is probably taking care of errands, most of the cooking, much of the cleaning and yard work.  Even if she has a housekeeper and yard service (I do not) there are things that have to get done in between.

When her husband gets home from work he doesn't have to worry about what's for dinner or whether or not the dry cleaning needs to be picked up.  All those little million and one things are taken care of so his life is made much easier, too.  Sometimes it's worth doing w/o the extra income from a second earner, sometimes it's not.  That's something that Op has to decide for herself.[/quote]

What fantasy land is that? I have a SAH wife. I do my own laundry, change the sheets, take out garbage, clean up kitchen at night. My wife is not staying home to help me or to take care of stuff nights and weekends. She has a full time job 8-6 every day. Watching 3 kids, taking care of house and cooking. She is tech support, cook, nurse, driver, guidance counselor, etc all day.

She used to work and an office job is mental not physical. She is tired by time I get home full of energy from sitting down all day. I did it myself six weeks when wife was in before at with third I could not wait to get back to work [/quote]

I said that she is probably doing much of the house cleaning, errand running and yard work.  I didn't say that her husband did nothing.  It's good that you help out on the home front, you should!  But even with all that you do to help - your own laundry, changing the sheets, taking out the garbage, cleaning up the kitchen after dinner- your wife is still doing the bulk of the housecleaning, cooking, child care, errand running. My husband handled the lawn care and weeding. I trimmed shrubs, planted flowers, mulched, raked leaves.  My husband also has always handled the majority of home repairs and snow shoveling.  It's definitely a team effort.[/quote]

I’m surprised if OP has a BIG job that they are doing the bulk of housekeeping or yard care. Most hire out majority work and do light daily maintenance.

[b]So basically childcare and cooking, and then when children are older it’s clear sailing.[/b] [/quote]

Hardly. I found that the kids needed me differently when they were older. MS and HS needed more logistical support and strategy  because of the kinds of programs and EC activities they were participating in, and more guidance and my continuous presence because of the various kinds of pressures and stressors in their daily lives.

One solution does not fit everyone.  If money is not the motivator for working then it should be job satisfaction.  Most people in this world work because they need the money.  If they win the lottery they will quit working.  And yes, if one could have help at home, and a full time educated SAH parent who is organizing and orchestrating everything from the family needs to social interactions, mental-physical wellbeing to the educational progress and direction of the kids, then it is fabulous for all concerned.

If you are at home, with lots of money but you are an alcoholic or snorting cocaine or are contributing to  dysfunction in some other way - it really does not matter if you WOH or SAH, frankly then you are detrimental to the well-being of yourself and your family.

-DP[/quote]

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