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[quote=Anonymous]I think I understand how you feel OP. My just turned 4 and 1, so our kids are about the same distance, and let me tell you, the time period you're describing was ROUGH as hell. There were some baaaad moments.

Somehow, I kept muddling through, because like you, I do love my kids more than anything, but goodness, I do know the feelings you're talking about.

Right now, I'm almost starting to see a twinkling of light at the end of the tunnel. I mean not really, I still have years and years to go, but things are better than they were at 3 years and 3.5 months. It's not a linear progression, there's definitely ups and downs, but things are slowly getting easier.

We don't have a ton of extra money, but it has helped immensely to hire a high school kid to come watch the kids for a couple of hours - even a few times a month on Saturday mornings so my husband and I can both be free. It's amazing how much that helps me get through the weekend. I hope you are able to do that sometime too.

But I hear you, and I empathize, immensely. I never verbalize it, but sometimes I wonder if it was a mistake to have a second kid (one was sooo much easier and fun!). Then I look at my 2nd kid's face and wonder how I could think that. But it's just a feeling, it comes and goes, and that's OK.

The dark times are like ocean waves, they come and go. You're in a particularly stormy port right now, but I do have a lot of hope for you that things will start to even out. My 3 year old was melt down city when baby was 3-6 months old, my marriage was super stressed (worst fight ever when 2nd baby was around 2 months old). Ugh. It sucked.

But it feels marginally better know.

We just have to keep going. One foot in front of the other. You can do it. It will get better.

Signed,
Someone's whose been there (and may still be there on some days - but not every day!)

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