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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I have three kids and have found the opposite...people are constantly questioning how I do it or referring to me as a saint (I’m not). It’s not that much more difficult than two kids (transition to one was actually the hardest). I don’t over schedule my kids, balance one-on-one time between my spouse, myself, and children, and realize certain days will suck the life out of me. Looking forward to holidays when they’re older and hopefully have their own families...focusing on raising good, strong people and realize that can’t happen if I paint myself as a martyr. I feel society sort of expects mom’s of 2+ to be exhausted all the time and to complain; my kids were all planned and I don’t need sympathy.[/quote]

This is the key given 1-2 of them at any given time probably get ignored or the oldest parents the other ones.  [b]Saying you don't over schedule means they don't get to do activities they want to do[/b] and its really all about you.[/quote]

DP, but letting kids do everything they want to do and giving them every conceivable advantage isn't a healthy way to raise kids.  It's normal in life to be ignored sometimes or be bored or have to do something you don't want to do.  You learn to be creative, to entertain yourself, to advocate for yourself, and to be a team player.  I'm also a mom of three planned kids who does a lot similar to the above PP (though I do think three kids is significantly more work than two).  I want my kids to be productive members of society, and that's not going to happen if their dad and I let them have everything they want all the time.[/quote]

This!

I'm one of 4, born in the 70s. This is my parenting philosophy, too. I constantly have to remind my DH who only has one sibling and was pretty much raised as the center of attention that we weren't out on this earth to constantly entertain children. He's learned, and boy can you see the difference as kids get older (needy snowflakes vs cool independent kids). [/quote]

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