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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]As a dad, I simply refuse to believe there are dads out there (in the DC area) that don't do the practices, games, PTCs,  field trips, camping trips etc.

I can't recall more than maybe one or two absent dads that weren't deployed. And I have 3 kids that are 14,13, and 9. What's that? Thirty six years of parenting.

This is as false narrative being pushed by angry women.[/quote]

So my DH is at a lot of the events but I'm the one who researched the activities, signed kid up, figured out how we'd get him to practices, made sure he had clean clothes for practice packed when we left that morning, that his uniform is ready for games, was on top of when practice was rained out and how we would get him home those days, when games were and that we were at the field on time, when we were supposed to bring the snacks and that we bought food for it and it was packed to go etc

So no, while my husband is spending the same 70minutes standing on the side of the field as I am, he does not get the same credit for for doing the last tiny bit of the effort involved - especially when its the fun part where we are basically socializing with friends - when I did all the work to make it happen x every aspect of our lives

Yes we both work full time[/quote]

I have found that this kind of division of labor is most often as a result of the mom saying "nevermind, I'll do it" in response to the dad simply not doing to her specifications.  I can guarantee you that your DH can do laundry and look up game times/field times, etc.  For some reason, you guys have fallen into your roles but I bet you if you had a conversation about taking over some things, he would do other things.

I'm a single dad and I coordinate all those things - mostly because I had no choice and knew the responsibility was on me and nobody else.  I think too often dads assume moms are going to pick up some things and the mom assumes the role of typical mom things but this paradigm does not have to exist if you don't want it to.[/quote]

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