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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Tonight, my supposedly Christian FIL started talking about how he got into a debate with his Jewish friend about the Old Testament, and how he found Jews "arrogant" for considering themselves the chosen people.  Due to their arrogance, he could "kinda see where Hitler was coming from".  I about strangled him at the dining room table.

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If you didn't immediately challenge his words, ask him to leave your home (or leave the premesis of wherever you were yourself), you are complicit to his xenophobic and harmful comment. If you would stay silent through that comment, what WOUDL make you speak up? [/quote]

I agree, and I did challenge him immediately and told him there was no place in my house for those sentiments.  I wasn’t exaggerating that I felt full of rage.  He recanted and apologized and said he didn’t mean to sound anti Semitic and that there was no justification for Hitler’s actions.  I told him that his words were unacceptable and to really think about what he said.  He apologized again this morning.  I’m not fully convinced but he told his son he didn’t sleep last night so clearly he felt some remorse.  But I don’t forget such things easily and never stay silent in such cases.  I’m known as the family spitfire, but I think it’s what all decent people should do.  [/quote]

I'm Jewish and also my family's spitfire (and black sheep).  Thank you for speaking up. [/quote]

NP here. I just want to say that I used to think it was polite and respectful to stay silent when I didn't agree with people, but now I know that decent people need to carry the burden, speak up and challenge unacceptable speech whenever and wherever they hear it. It's not always easy for "nice girls" to do, but it is so important.[/quote]

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