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Nope. Just trying to say that I think everyone is a lot more scared by the world than the real risks justify. The relentless and obviously cynical media coverage of this caravan is a somewhat extreme example of the dynamic that contributes to this fear. Crime is at a fairly low ebb historically, but to hear people talk, you'd think the good old days were safer and we live in Troubled Times. Kids are probably safer than ever but people won't let them play unattended for fear that they'll get abducted or molested.

I don't really have a beef with locking doors. It doesn't take a lot of effort, it doesn't hurt anything, and it could possibly help even if the chances of a home invasion or burglary while you're home at night with a dog is really, really low. It sounds like OP was frustrated after the latest incident and has now cooled down and is looking into a technological solution. So that's all good. But I think her underlying fear would be much reduced if the local news didn't stoke fears about crime just because that gets people to buy papers and stay tuned through the ads. [/quote]

This is OP - and up until I recently switched jobs I worked in media. I'm by and large not prone to scaremongering and I don't overvalue local news reports. I also think that locking your door when you live in a city - or not in a city! - is sort of safety basics 101. I also wear a seat belt, and eat vegetables. I don't keep blackout curtains up at all times to prevent would-be thieves from seeing what's inside our house, because that seems over the top. Hell, we don't even have an alarm (though I'd like to get one). But there are burglaries in our neighborhood - and I fail to see how locking the door at night is some INSANE safety precaution. 
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Nobody called it "INSANE," and "safety basics 101" is just a variation on "we should do it this way because we've always done it this way."

Eating vegetables is a great analogy though. You should definitely do it. Not eating vegetables carries some level of risk. But if your husband cooks a meal without vegetables, you're probably not going to get too upset about it. Even if he does it multiple times -- even though not eating vegetables is probably riskier than sleeping with your door unlocked with a dog in the house. But, if he just flat out refused to make vegetables for the family, that'd be a serious marital problem. [/quote]

This is OP. You and my husband would have a lively conversation and I'm sure it would be great fun to play out actual risks of these various scenarios. Honestly, I just want the damn door locked is all. It doesn't seem a big ask. (And yes I'd like him to eat more vegetables as well. He grew up in a home where his parents didn't make him eat well, and didn't even make him wear a seatbelt. So, ya know - here we are. He's a great guy, just has some bad habits.)[/quote]

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