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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I love my DH, and he still turns me on.  However, I have health issues and menopause has made sex very painful....including lots of bleeding.  I have seen various doctors and am trying everything I can, but sadly, sex hurts and that is no fun. [b] I do try to satisfy my husband in other ways, but feel very guilty.[/b]  However, sex isn’t everything in a marriage and if it caused him to cheat, I would divorce him.  We are getting older and things change.  The changes have been absolutely no picnic for me either.  This thread makes me feel horrible as a wife.[/quote]
1. Expand your definition of "sex": there are 1000+ mutually pleasurable acts do not involve female penetration. Find ways to make it fun for you!
2. Props for satisfying your husband in other ways... keep that up on a weekly+ basis and you have nothing to feel guilty about, and no fear of him cheating.
3. While your health issues are unfortunate, keep in mind that (if he's healthy) your husband's sex drive is strong as ever so you must not fall into the trap of believing that you are "done with sex" because at that point you should just divorce him ASAP, rather than wait for the inevitable discovery of him going elsewhere.[/quote]

You are always spouting this crap and you are wrong. Truly one of the most vile posters on the DCUM.

Men's sex lives DO often take a dive. They get older too. They gain weight, they lose their jobs, they stop getting erections (even with drugs), they are stressed and need sleep.[/quote]
Yes, some *tiny* fraction of older men do lose interest. But why are you so up-in-arms about a minority case? What is so vile about me pointing out the vast majority of men remain highly interested in sex?[/quote]

Because theses poster always insists on "opening the marriage."

Here's the TRUTH:

Older than 50:

31 percent of couples have sex several times a week; 28 percent of couples have sex a couple of times a month; and 8 percent of couples have sex once a month. Sadly — or so we thought —[b] 33 percent of respondents said they rarely or never have sex.[/b] But even among couples who report being "extremely happy," an astonishing one-fourth rarely or never get it on.

https://www.aarp.org/home-family/sex-intimacy/info-01-2013/seniors-having-sex-older-couples.html[/quote]
All the stats you just quoted ignore the essential point: older men's interest versus older women's. I assure you those low numbers are due to women rejecting their husband's advances. You are attempting to obfuscate the problem. Even the wording of your PP attempts to do this: you said that "[i]Men's sex lives DO often take a dive[/i] is what you said, but [b]that was NOT the question[/b]! The question was about men's interest in sex, irrespective that his partner has (selfishly) decided that she is "done with sex" ... and (crazily) expects that he will go along with that plan. It would be unfair of me to suggest the uninterested wife to "just do it" despite her lack of desire, hence the only logical resolution, where BOTH get what they want/need... open marriage. What else do you suggest?[/quote]

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