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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Advice is the same regardless of gender.  Some people are persnickety, perfectionist.  It drives people around them crazy.

The lady with the cheese plate example a few post back was exactly like OP.  Sometimes it's better to just let things go.  My spouse is doing our 4th of July event.  The OP would probably want to discuss menu and all the things his wife should buy.  I personally want to do it to my spouse as indont enjoy generic hot dog buns.  But if I went to the store and 2 d guessed all his selections and was critical of his menu he would likely ask why am I doing this.  Indont blame him.  Ok, you need to look internally.  [/quote]

OP here. No, I wouldn't give a damn about cheese plates, or any of the many tiny decisions that are made on a daily basis.

I'm taking about big issues here ... the sorts of issues that arise just once in a while, rather than on a daily basis.

Another example -- discussing how best to take care of an aging parent. It would be nice to be able to chat about a major issue like this, but I find that my wife is on a knife's edge within 60 seconds of starting the conversation. If I suggest that we first get a sense of the range of options and choices we have available, she will interpret that to mean that I want to challenge her decision. In other words -- we can't talk about big issues. I mean we can't even get the conversation started. No, I don't yell. No, I don't tell her what to do. No, I don't tell her it is my way or the highway. None of these things. I lay out my thoughts on a conversational tone. But this approach doesn't work. It is almost as if she is opposed to reason itself -- that the mere act of THINKING before making an important choice is a challenge to her approach to decision-making.[/quote]

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