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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]How is it that he thinks you have a great marriage and yet you are secretly planning to leave him?

Are ya’ll still having sex?[/quote]

Because he’s emotionally clueless. I have told him several times over the years that I don’t think he respects me and that I don’t always like or appreciate the way he speaks to me. He always denies the lack of respect thing, his language improves, but then it always slips again. For instance, he loves to rub it in my face in front of our kids that they shouldn’t ask me for help on their math hw because he got such a higher score on the SATs. That’s genuinely his idea of a joke. I know he doesn’t really mean it spitefully (at least not completely) but I’m sick of overlooking that kind of thing. I’ve had enough.

Yes we’re still having sex bit not as often as we used to. Probably once a week.[/quote]

Wow, I pray you have better examples than that.  My wife and I tease each other all the time and you admit he doesn't mean it spitefully?  You sound super resentful and clearly even things like that are scratching at your insides.  I also can't help but wonder what HIS side of this whole story would sound like - since we're all assuming he's the horrible person you make him out to be[/quote]

Dude that’s actually a really disrespectful thing to say and she said she even told him that it hurts her feelings and he still does it.

If you are saying shit like that to your wife on the reg, she might be secretly planning to dump you too.[/quote]

NP.  It depends.  My husband and I banter like this too and I'm not so sensitive that I sulk, I give it right back - it's usually all in fun.[/quote]\

Same here.

The reality is that OP is insecure, has low self-esteem and no ability to improve either herself or her relationships with others. So her husband doesn't really respect her, her kids probably don't either, and instead of doing the hard work of gaining their respect and trust by being a rational, assertive, responsible human being, she thinks it's going to be easier to get out... how wrong she is.

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Where are you getting that her kids don’t respect her? Lol. Talk about reading into things and projecting.[/quote]

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