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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My mum is no longer living and a big regret for me is not celebrating mothers day for her. My dad never bought gifts for anything (birthdays, Christmas), that was my mum's 'job' so as a result everything except mothers day got celebrated. She had us sign a card for him for father's day and she'd buy gifts, etc. He did nothing. I got older and would get her things. I never really thought about it until now that I'm a mother. She would always say 'we don't matter, you guys matter'... and I do feel the same.

My DH makes it happen. I make it happen for him. I'm sad we didn't celebrate it for my mother more. In schools now these days, it seems the kids all make a project. We didn't do that when I was in school so as kids she never got anything until we got older. She would always eyeroll at mothers day advertising say "treat me well and appreciate me 365 days a year- don't try to make up for being an A-hole in one day" and we did love and appreciate and respect her daily... but she probably said that to make it ok to herself that this day wasn't celebrated, and in saying it, it also reinforced my dad to be a generally good guy, but clueless about actually stopping and thanking her on this day. She would have loved our art/cards. I still shake my head that my dad did nothing and it took getting older, seeing ads on tv for us to realize we should get something, despite what she said.

Every year I happily get art/cards from each child made at school and I have that pang of pain that I don't deserve it; I never did it for my mum.[/quote]
 You should not feel guilty. You didn’t know any better when you were younger. So don’t beat yourself up. your mother knew that you loved her and  since she raised you, she was aware that you were unaware that Mother’s Day might be important to her. I know that for my children I have explicitly told them Mother’s Day is important and I want something from the heart.  If I did not do that, my kids would not know that I feel Mother’s Day is  important. your mother did not explicitly tell you that  she felt Mother’s Day was important, in fact she said the opposite.  As such, there is no way you would’ve known. Again forgive yourself. You did nothing wrong. [/quote]

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