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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Actually the exact opposite! A wife who "goes of sex" has clearly established that sex is completely NOT important to the marriage at all. So, rather than throw away all those other things you mentioned (kids, shared interests, years of shared history, knowing each other) it makes alot more sense that the man goes and does that "unimportant thing" (sex) with another woman. In this way, the marriage can be saved. There is no other answer that keeps the marriage together. Opening the marriage is a last gasp effort to save it.[/quote]

What BS. You keep coming back with “everything’s the wife’s fault” and rather than fix the problems in your end, you’re “entitled to an open marriage.” Agree with PPs that this is a threat rather than a sincere effort to share in fixing the marriage.

You didn’t answer the question about whether you’ve been married.[/quote]

Where did I blame my wife for anything? I was, and remain, committed to fixing any problems on my end. I am entitled to pursue a sex life... if my wife is not interested, then Yes, I am entitled to pursue sex outside the marriage. My decision to open the marriage was no more a threat than my wife's decision to not want sex yet remain married.

To answer your question: Yes, I am married, and have been for a long time. Same wife!

Here's the thing: all these women who "lose their libido" would DEFINITELY find it very soon after divorcing. I've witnessed this many times over. Clearly, these women are able to "find" it, provided they have sufficient motivation. Their husband just needs to motivate them.[/quote]

As my OB gyne said, you didn't lose your libido, your husband killed it. There is no pill for that.[/quote]
So you did the mature thing by explicitly telling your husband precisely what he was doing to kill your libido with specific actionable ways that he should change, whereupon your fantastic sexlife resumed? Or you promptly divorced him? Or issued him a permanent Hall Pass? No, you just quietly stuck around, expecting him to keep meeting your needs while you ignore his. Sorry it does not work that way: I can predict your marital future.[/quote]

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