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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I'm 44 years old and want to get a[b] breast lift.[/b]  I'm very unhappy with my appearance and feel unattractive, and am having trouble enjoying being intimate with DH because of it.  DH is very opposed to the idea of my getting this surgery done.  He agrees that there's an issue with sagging, but doesn't think its a big deal.  He is also very concerned about something going wrong during the surgery - we have two kids and his view is that it would be selfish to undergo elective surgery for cosmetic reasons when there is a chance (albeit small) of something going wrong.  He also thinks it would make more sense to use the money for something the family could all enjoy together, like an international vacation.

Am I being really selfish by wanting to do this?  I can't imagine living the next 20 plus years feeling this unattractive, and I don't think I am going to be able to just move past this feeling on my own without having this done.[/quote]

I had a breast lift, because I lost a massive amount of weight. You do realize that you will have scars, up the middle of each breast, under your breasts & up the sides of each breast? Your breasts may look"perky" but when nude, depending on how you scar and the doctor's ability, scarring could be quite noticeable and not too attractive. You will not only have the expense for the surgery, but you will have to take off from work, you can not lift anything for weeks, and you could have a complication, like a seroma or opening. I would rethink this if you only want a breast lift because of natural, children/age related changes.[/quote]

So beCause you were overweight it’s ok for you to do it,  it because she had kids and might be older is not? Why? A few scars (some of which are usually hidden) are much better than sagging breasts. Also every plastic surgery leaves scars, but people do them anyway which means that the results are an improvement from status quo [/quote]
It sounds like she regrets the decision and was unaware that the scarring would be as obvious as it is.[/quote]

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