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The daughter might not want it, but one or more of the grandchildren might.  [/quote]

And this is how hoarding begins.
You don't want it.
Your kids don't want it.
But maybe, just maybe some future descendant MIGHT.

I currently have my great-grandmother's silver (plate) sitting on a shelf in my garage. My grandmother took it when her mother died in 1975. She kept it in her attic until she moved to assisted living in 2008. (De-crapping her 4 bedroom house was a 6-month nightmare.) My mother took it when grandma died in 2015. 
Now mom has handed it to me and what the hell am I supposed to do with it? I tried to have mom give to younger cousin who just got married but cousin lives in 1 bedroom apartment and doesn't want it. How long do i have to store it until I can just donate it? I know if I tell my mom, I want to donate it, she will take it back to her house. My parents are 70+ and need to work on going stuff out of their house not adding more in!!!![/quote]

Hoarding is a psychological problem and not caused by storing a few antiques or heirlooms for the next generation. Your daughter will become a hoarder if she's inclined to become one, not because you held on to a set of silver you particularly didn't want in the expectation that she might want it herself. Your silverplate is hardly valuable (silverplate is not) and its only intrinsic value is the connection to your great-grandmother. It's up to you to decide if it's worth keeping to pass along to your daughter, but let's not confuse it with keeping an entire room or basement filled with stuff.

I have a few inherited bits that I don't need or even want myself but there is enough intrinsic and monetary value to them that makes it worthwhile to hold on for the next generation. Fashion changes and what goes around and comes around. But it is just a few objects easily packed away, I certainly wouldn't let it grow out of hand.   :roll: [/quote]

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