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[quote=Anonymous]OP i read all 10 pages and, in general, i agree with other posters. here are my thoughts

1) your biggest problem is not that "house is a mess". i find it strange to focus on that. your biggest problem is that your children are failing academically. that is much more difficult to turn around and can have much more devastating consequences than a bunch of dirty laundry and shelves that haven't been dusted.

btw, tutors can't solve that problem. i used to tutor an extremely wealth student (parents were foreign billionaires; he lived in US on his own so he was essentially neglected despite ton of help and money). i was an ok kid and we were able to make notable short-term progress in a given course, but that made no difference whatsoever for his overall trajectory. he knew he had a lot of money and he simply didn't care. tutors can't make your kids care (not long-term). knowledge and discipline can't be bought. as a side, those short pants on your son reminded me of him - a student who had standby chauffeur and live-in cook (there was a wedding-like menu of fresh foods and meals every day on a giant table) did not have a working printer, or a pencil sharpener. he had everything except for what he needed.

2) your husband works full time. he probably makes at least 100k, more 150k. if so, he is professionally speaking pretty successful. few men make that much. just because you have some insane career doesn't mean that everyone is a loser.

3) your husband is not your servant. you don't get to order him what to do with kids. if you don't like his parenting, then you need to step and do what is necessary. you don't just hand in a list o demands because, oh, you make so much money. that won't work even with paid help, much less with your own family.

3) if you at least you were passionate about your job i would understand why you need to spend so much time on it. but you say you only do it for the money. but not only you don't need this money, it is positively ruining your family and your life. you need to change jobs.
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