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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP - I am probably as old as your old fogey. I work primarily with men. I once saw a young woman in my office wearing cute but not work appropriate wear. I invited her to coffee and offered her free unsolicited advice that she should dress more professionally to keep all her options open.  No idea if there is a dress code and if she was violating the code or not.  But I knew based on my many years of experience how she was being (consciously or subconsciously) perceived by some.  She might have been offended - I don’t know. But she did come back some months later and ask me to be a mentor.  She’s wonderful and is going to run rings around people like me someday.  Your old biddy might have been a bitch but it didn’t mean she had nothing to offer. [/quote]

This happened to me at my first job out of college. I was young, clueless, broke, and wearing my college wardrobe. My boss took me out to lunch and kindly suggested that I check my shirts since some were wayyyyy too... ventilated.

I was so embarrassed. It was awful. I so badly wanted to do well at this, my first job, and I couldn’t believe that I hadn’t noticed how... ventilated... some of my tops were. I wasn’t trying to be super-sexy - I just hadn’t thought about it, being a doofus.

Anyway, it was horrible, and I’m grateful.  It’s a mistake I’ve never made since. Thanks to the older women who have the uncomfortable conversations with us young doofuses.

P.S. I work in IT. :D[/quote]

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