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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Wife of the guy who didn't pull out when her son jumped into bed with her said she was extremely uncomfortable but didn't pull away. This is what I find the most disturbing about that story -- that in the poster's marriage, apparently she can't exercise her right not to continue with a sex act when she's extremely uncomfortable. 
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You misrepresenting what she said in order to make it sound more "rapey." She never said that her DH continued after she told him to stop.

Here is the quote:

"4 y.o. DS hopped into bed with us this very morning while DH was inside me. He didn't pull out right away and tried to finish while DS was trying to cuddle up in front of me. I wanted to strangle DH and gave him a horse kick bc he was still slowly pumping away after a minute or two (Yes, door should have been locked). Sex is frequent so he should've stopped right away. DS had no clue, but I was infinitely uncomfortable."

The order of events here:

1. They were having sex.
2. Son jumps into bed, is obviously unaware of what is happening
3. DH continues to "slowly pump away" 
4. OP kicks DH to stop
5. DH stops (this is implied)
6. Son was completely unaware that anything was happening.

No one was harmed. No one was "raped." It was just an awkward, and later humorous, situation. I'm so sick of people who needlessly instigate strife and outrage.[/quote]

I did not use the term rape. I did not say she told him to stop. [b]I said she was uncomfortable (which she said) but did not tell him so.[/b] That's the dynamic -- a relationship where a woman goes through very uncomfortable sexual situation without speaking up. I didn't call it rape, but it is unhealthy. [/quote]

I get it now. You expect other people in your life to be able read your mind and know what you are thinking.

If she didn't say anything, and wasn't in obvious distress, he's not going to know if she is uncomfortable. There's no "dynamic." You write like someone who reads too much Jezebel.[/quote]

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